Bullied at work!

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work in a small office of people and a staff member half my age who started three months ago is getting staff on her side making me feel ostracised. I have worked at the company the longest with the most experience. I will be ignored deliberately by her and her group of “friends” and made to feel very uncomfortable. I heard from another staff member that she has openly stated amongst her group that she has physically threatened to harm me as she is not scared of me! I have never done anything but remained professional and get on with my work without any confrontation whatsoever. I am very efficient and known to get “things” done. This person uses her sexuality to get the guys on her side including the Manager who clearly sides with her. I have been and made a official complaint, the company a very large organisation have spoken with her and she put on the tears and show of me “I have done nothing” within minutes she was out of the office was downstairs laughing her head off with “friends” knowing full well I was near by. I have been told there will be an investigation. She has not been suspended as apparently they don’t do that. I have suffered a panic in front of my manager and am finding it difficult to work. I am 62 years of age and she is 27. Apart from some valid constructive criticism of her work practices which I mentioned to my manager I have not been anything but nice. I believe she will only get a warning for this and be allowed to continue to work at this company. SeemsI will have to suck it up or leave. It’s not very nice to walk into an office and be ignored when you say “morning”. We work in the care sector which makes it more frightening. Seriously what can I do but leave or continued to be bullied! The other staff members are near to her age and are fairly new themselves with only months of working there! In fact the person who told my manager of the “vile” threats she verbally made said they wanted no part of what was said had to report it, I have not been told exactly what was said as if would upset me too much. I love my job and the clients I work with rely on me for support I would hate to let them down and leave x

This really sucks, OP. You sound like a true professional who does not deserve such spiteful treatment. However, you've done the right thing by reporting it, and your workplace is aware of this person's behaviour.
Do you know of the grey rock technique? Please do look it up and use it, at least until this person gets worn out and/or is asked to leave. Be cool, keep your skin clean and let her do herself in. I've found the classic MN advice of a tinkly laugh, coupled with dismissive finger flutter, is useful against people who are genuinely rude. But yes, this is a crap situation that you might have to endure for a while.

I have been told they will not take her off my shift I will have to be put out, even though they have two solid witnesses of her actions towards me. It’s make me I’ll

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Do not leave, as this means she will win.
There’s also a big chance she will leave anyway.

I’m sorry I don’t have any proper advice but I would just try and carry on and not stoop to her level.

Any sort of issues you have from her you need to log and complain.
If nothing gets done then you take the complaints higher and show them the log of everything that happened and what they did about it after you made a complaint.

Update: it looks like she going to get away with it. She is now gas lighting me! Not enough proof. It makes me feel so sad a out and out bully is getting away with treating another person in such a nasty way. Others can see it, but either scared of her or don’t want to get involved. Feel isolated and alone at work. Will probably have to leave as it’s making feel like s.h.I.t even to be in her presence her laughing and enjoying watching me crumble. 😢

Can you complain it’s made feel unsafe at work? Make sure you keep a record of events. They need to deal with this - if you leave she will just end up doing it to someone else. It might be work a call to Acas to see what they would advise. It seems unreasonable for your employers to make you work the same shift as someone who has made threats towards you. It sounds like you are very good at your job and it makes her feel inferior. Don’t let her know it’s upsetting you - she will be getting satisfaction from knowing she’s upsetting you.