Struggling to know what to do

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I work for two bosses, A and B. They are very close and have each other’s backs.

I was recently told I was not ready for promotion by A. I was then told not long after that not only was I not ready, I was actually under performing and that A and B had real concerns about me. I was given a real dressing down by A and it was quite humiliating.

I decided I would resign and told B that’s what I wanted to do, without stating the reasons. I assumed that everyone would be aware and that it was fairly obvious what was happening given the conversation I had with A. I also did not want to burn bridges.

B said they were shocked and felt blindsided by my decision and have asked me if I can share the reasons with them. What do I say? Will it change anything?

there are other people in the company and I feel a bit resentful that I have gone through some awful times and now A will be told their behaviour was a bit heavy handed and not to repeat it, when from my perspective the damage is done. Feel a bit like I’ve been the fall guy.

You can tell them and still leave though.

How long have you worked there and was the talk so bad that it was worth resigning over?

I'd give a vague answer says as A made me aware of his view of my performance and it's clear this isn't working out. I'd prefer a fresh start.

But if you've been there years I'd handle it differently

Thanks, I’ve been there 4 years. Just confused as to why one is saying I’m terrible and other is confused as to why I’m leaving if that’s the party line.

C'mon OP! Why are you being so meek? Please stand up for yourself. If A has any concerns with your work ask them for a development plan on how to improve.

It's really poor management from A. They can't just tell you you're rubbish and walk away. It's their responsibility to support you to make sure you have the knowledge and tools to do your job effectively.

Don't just fade away and resign! Speak to B. Tell them what's happened and ask for support to get yourself up to speed. I'd actually hazard a guess that there's nothing wrong with your work and A is being a sick. Why on earth are you listening to A?

Four years you've been in you role with no issues so why are you just throwing in the towel at one persons (shitty) opinion and pathetic management style?

Please don't let A bully you out of your job.

*DICK not sick!

Do you want to leave?

I'd tell b you are disappointed with a opinion's and feel they were unfair and that you want to work for a company where you are supported to progress