Feeling down, not heard back from interview

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Just would like some reassurance /have a moan if possible..

so 20 years in a job which so far has been okay but lately over the last 2-3 gone downhill under new management. Staff do whatever they like and are not punished for it. Bullying is rife, HR don’t care etc etc. I’ve decided to finally leave and got an interview yesterday for a similar role in another company.

interview went very well , they seemed to like me, said all my skills and experience are what they are looking for said they would be in touch tomorrow (today) .

been waiting by the phone all day and nothing. So assume I haven’t got the job. Which is disappointing but one of those things. But a courtesy call to say I haven’t got the job, would that be asking too much?

a couple of previous jobs I’ve applied for (and all my skills have matched their job description) I haven’t even got my foot in the door. No communication at all, no interview. one of them I followed up with an email and still no response.

a bit low and disappointed , thinking this would be my ticket out of a toxic environment , but obviously not meant to be.

I completely understand how frustrating it is. This is so disrespectful, why couldn't the company give you a reply? Nobody forced them to promise to contact you the next day - they did it themselves, so why don't they bother to protect that promise?
How many jobs have you applied to? How much time has passed since you started looking for a job?

I've been with my current company for 7 years, and things have quickly gone downhill after a change of management in the last year. There's lots of harassment going on and HR doesn't do anything about it even after being presented with the evidence (so similar to your workplace).
I have been looking for a new job for 3 months already, made more than a hundred applications. 90% of those applications were for jobs out of my very niche field, although I have lots of transferable skills.
10 of the job ads in my field that I applied for had listed all the credentials I had, from the mandatory ones to desirable ones, I had all of them - just like you, and still they said no. After lots of digging through several recruiters, I have discovered that for some companies I was "too old" (early thirties), some didn't want to hire a woman for this role, and one company said I won't pass their security check because of my past nationality (I should probably say I'm not in the UK, you are obliged to write down your date of birth on the CV here and so on).
I've got contacted eventually by a recruiter from a huge international company that everyone knows about, and I now have a final interview scheduled with them. I've also got some other interviews lined up if this option doesn't work out, but it took me months to get here and it was a very depressing process I should say. Please don't lose hope and keep applying, you will get there eventually, it's all a numbers game.

I wouldn't assume the worst sometimes these things take a bit longer. I'd ring tomorrow and ask for feedback then at least you know and if you didn't get it you might get some insight into why.

There is a lot of reasons you may not have heard today. Staff illness etc.

I would wait until lunchtime tomorrow and ring asking for feedback. At least you will know either way.

lots of reasons for a delayed response from an otherwise communicative employee. Illness, appointments, higher priority issues to resolve, discussing salary offer, following up references over phone,

It ain't over till it's over. Things sometimes get delayed. They may have offered it to someone and are waiting for them to accept or decline. You could be next on the list.

Thanks all for your insightful comments , I appreciated each and every one. Good luck howdoichangeanamehere, I’m really rooting for you!

I was thinking about contacting them today , because as previous poster said, they made the promise themselves about yesterday without any response from me from what I assumed was to know either way. But there’s a part of me that thinks they’ll be put off by me chasing if there’s other stuff going on? Ah I don’t know.

its really toxic at my workplace at the moment , a lot of things going on are borderline illegal but no one does anything about it or seem to care , unless you fall in line and agree with the dishonesty you’re left out and not replied to for things you have to ask to just do your job etc. most people I know there are unhappy but too scared to jump as they tend to throw money at you to get you to stay.

When I’ve applied for other jobs ive gone for ones that are slightly lower in wage so it feels even worse when I’m rejected , I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I’ll have a think about calling them later today and will carry on my search. Thanks all for your support.

I don’t know if it’s relevant or not but I feel sick whenever I have to do in the office , knowing what I’m about to encounter, it’s affecting my home life but I darent sign off sick or anything like that , there’s no cover for my work , it’s only me. When I’ve been off sick before or on holiday management just let everything fall by the wayside and call me to ask questions and have a go at me for not reaching deadlines. When I love told them of issues I’m encounting im labelled over the top and emotional !

*have; not love!

It might depend on who interviewed you for example if the manager has to go back through HR to formalise an offer etc then in my experience that will cause a short delay - several times I've been told I'll hear back quickly and then something has obviously cropped up/it's taken time to get an offer out etc so it isn't always bad news. I think it also depends on the size of the company - generally the bigger the company the longer the process/more rules they have to follow. There isn't anything wrong with following up but do it because you're keen etc don't say you're annoyed they've not come back to you - get offered the job first before giving them any sort of feedback

I definitely wouldn’t write it off yet. Good luck!

Thanks. It’s a small family business, no HR etc

I will keep my fingers crossed for you. There could be lots of reasons, people aim to do things by a deadline with the best of intentions but if it's a small family business they may have been sidetracked.
I know what it's like when you're dragging yourself into a job you hate but you will eventually get out. What's for you won't go by you as they say.
Good luck OP

This, a thousand times.

I emailed this morning to ask politely and haven’t heard back. It’s going to be a long weekend !

So I’ve spent the evening feeling down and trying to pick myself up again, I’ll be back on indeed to look at other options.

I would like to know how you lovely lot cope with being in a shitty job with no other choice? I’ve tried detaching myself completely, don’t organise or go to any social events, work group chats, have been doing this for 2-3 years now. It’s been beneficial in the short term (less drama) but at the same time realise I’ve isolated myself and feel lonely and uncared about, it’s a horrible feeling especially after being there for a so long. I’ll be in this for the short term hopefully so any tips ? I’d be super grateful.

Hopeful bump

My practical tip would be to keep your LinkedIn profile up to date and a good selling document for your skills. I'm about to move jobs even though I wasn't actively looking. Recruitment consultants use LinkedIn to find candidates and you often receive job opportunities that way.

On your specific situation, it may just be that someone's been ill or waiting for sign-off. Companies aren't always good at keeping to deadlines and appreciating how frustrating a delay can feel when you're waiting for news.

Hi sep135 thanks for your advice. I wasn’t on linked in before but I created an account a year ago with the relevant info as I want to be “seen” as much as possible.

Normally I’d agree with you about the delay, however they seemed to go over and above by promising to contact me the next day (Thursday) and they’ve been posting to their social media pages a lot in the last 2 days as they normally do so definately still active and working. At this point i’m a bit annoyed they’ve left me to stew over the weekend, I’d rather they have not made the promise to be honest! I didn’t ask for it.

They’ve also pulled the job advert from indeed, noticed just now.

I had similar over a longer time frame. Interviewed on Thursday was told decision by Friday following week. Didn't hear anything but did hear on Monday morning.
So excited to give in my notice when I go back in this Monday after half term. 👏
Good luck. Don't give up hope. And if it's a no do t give up. You've decided to leave so get on it !! No one needs a bad job x

sadly this is completely normal. The absolute worse are the recruitment agencies.

I left my job a month ago and my professional skills are in high demand. My CV pretty much is identical to the Job descriptions on the job ads but I am not getting any bites.

I get lots of calls from recruiters saying I’m their strongest candidate and that they are presenting my CV to the client the next day and that they’ll contact me ‘tomorrow’ or ‘end of the week’ and then I’m completely and utterly ghosted… it’s absolutely fine if the client decides im not what they are looking for. But the recruiter should do the decent thing and reply to me with even just a one liner to say this!

I also had the same experience with in house recruiters who called me… ghosted too after telling me they want to progress my application, often after spending 30 mins on the phone to them discussing my experience etc.

I know several other people in the same situation and we are all, without exception, experiencing the same. The ghosting is unreal! LinkedIn also has a lot of posts about this recently too. In previous years/ job searches, it was never this bad.

it’s very disheartening but you just gotta continue on. A friend of mine had multiple Job interviews the last few months and always came out of them thinking ‘meh’ and it started to knock her confidence. They’d give feedback like ‘we didn’t feel you were confident enough etc’ and then suddenly last week she had an amazing interview, really clicked with the hiring manager and then was offered the job and she is now glad that she wasn’t offered any of the other jobs as she just wasn’t feeling it with those companies Sometimes rejection is redirection

@marmitegirl01 congratulations, I bet you’re on a high right now :-) this something I keep envisaging, the moment I hand in my notice 👍

@Milliemoos5 you’ve confirmed my fear in recruitment agencies, absolutely no need for ghosting at all. Sadly I am starting to think it’s normal for the time we are living in these days, I suppose I just have to get used to it and develop a thicker skin!

I think I did well in the interview, confident etc so not worried about that. What’s for me won’t pass me by and all that. I’m very skilled at my job , I go above and beyond to get things done and an asset to any company. Sounds arrogant but I don’t mean it to be!

thanks for all your words of encouragement, they’ve really helped. I’m trying hard to not let it ruin my weekend!

Don't loose hope yet OP, there can be any number of reasons why they have not come back to you. Sometimes they need time to get the opinion or go ahead from decision makers. If it is a small business perhaps they have been busy dealing with other things. Remember the urgency for you is not the same for them. I firmly believe that if things are meant to be they will be and you just have to trust that if this doesn't work out then something else will work out for the better.

I'm due to start a new job in a week but it took 9 months of applying, getting to final round interviews but not getting the job at least 5 times for me to secure a new role. It is tough out there at the moment and sadly employers promise to get back to you in x amount of days but I've been left hanging for up to 2 weeks!
Don't give up, definitely update your LinkedIn and CV and just keep plugging away

It's a horrible feeling to be stuck in a job you hate. I've been in jobs where I'm frustrated and stressed and sometimes angry about things that are out of my control, and the thing that has always helped me through is having at least one colleague who feels the same. If you have that one colleague you can moan to each other and support each other and I find that keeps me sane. If you don't have that, I'd say you're doing the right things already by detaching. If your situation needs to change, save your energy for things that are within your control (looking for a new job, developing your skills, growing your network, keeping your LinkedIn profile updated) not on trying to influence change at your current job or going the extra mile.

Good luck with the job search and don't write this one off already. As everyone has already said, there are lots of reasons why their deadlines might have slipped (and remember social media posts can be scheduled in advance!).