Seriously stuck between a rock and a hard place

[Lookonbright]

I have been at my job for 18 months felt I needed more in relation to progression. I spoke to my manager and asked about a new role within the company. They suggested going for a role which was not something I have done before. I decided to show an interest to see if it would be of interest. In the meantime whilst I was on annual leave my manager has basically offered someone else my job! I have now been told in no uncertain terms by my manager that I have to take up the training and apply for the other role otherwise they will be in the “shit” for hiring another staff member which there is no budget for. I feel like if I don’t do the training and interview for the other role my days are numbered because I can’t imagine my life being very comfortable at my present role if my manager gets into trouble. I am concerned if I make a complaint to HQ then the situation is going to be intensely uncomfortable for me between myself and the manager. I have had a good relationship with my manager but literally being forced into saving their neck or experiencing their bad feelings

Your manager is really really out of order. How on earth dud they just hire someone without going through a proper recruitment process?! Do you want the new role? If you don't you could always fluff the interview.

Told my manager not applying for new job role. Reported his behaviour. Waiting for the backlash

Oh, good luck. What a mess, and none of it your fault.

That sounds like a really rubbish manager. What sort of industry are you in?

I work in a small office of people and a staff member half my age who started three months ago is getting staff on her side making me feel ostracised. I have worked at the company the longest with the most experience. I will be ignored deliberately by her and her group of “friends” and made to feel very uncomfortable. I heard from another staff member that she has openly stated amongst her group that she has physically threatened to harm me as she is not scared of me! I have never done anything but remained professional and get on with my work without any confrontation whatsoever. I am very efficient and known to get “things” done. This person uses her sexuality to get the guys on her side including the Manager who clearly sides with her. I have been and made a official complaint, the company a very large organisation have spoken with her and she put on the tears and show of me “I have done nothing” within minutes she was out of the office was downstairs laughing her head off with “friends” knowing full well I was near by. I have been told there will be an investigation. She has not been suspended as apparently they don’t do that. I have suffered a panic in front of my manager and am finding it difficult to work. I am 62 years of age and she is 27. Apart from some valid constructive criticism of her work practices which I mentioned to my manager I have not been anything but nice. I believe she will only get a warning for this and be allowed to continue to work at this company. SeemsI will have to suck it up or leave. It’s not very nice to walk into an office and be ignored when you say “morning”. We work in the care sector which makes it more frightening. Seriously what can I do but leave or continued to be bullied! The other staff members are near to her age and are fairly new themselves with only months of working there! In fact the person who told my manager of the “vile” threats she verbally made said they wanted no part of what was said had to report it, I have not been told exactly what was said as if would upset me too much. I love my job and the clients I work with rely on me for support I would hate to let them down and leave x