Will I need to give up my job?

[Lillabetty]

I've just recently come out of a abusive relationship. I have no family support unfortunately.
I have 3 children 12,4,8months the youngest two will be sleeping at their dad's 2 nights a week on my working days. (Eldest from a previous relationship)

I'm currently on maternity leave until the end of the month so need to see my line manager ASAP But could i have people's opinions please.

My normal hours are one day on the weekend and one day during the week 8pm-1am. I need to set new suitable hours for these days so it fits in around my eldest as she will be home on her own she's very mature for her age and I can see my house from the front of my work place. Google is telling me that it's a no go to leave children alone overnight that's understandable but what's the cut off to this? I want to move my hours to 4-9pm. She has after school club on the week day shift so she won't be in the house until after 5. Can I realistically keep this job or will I have to look for another one.
My line of thought is to adjust this one as my other children's dad won't pick them up until 4pm on said days.

I'm getting very confused thinking about it

She's definitely too young to be in the house alone from 5-9pm.

Could she be at your workplace?

It's a super market. She'd get bored and security would start getting suspicious

Are you splitting the care of younger children 50/50? If so then you work during the day on his days and he will need to arrange childcare.

I think that's fine op, she's 12 not 2. She can take herself off for a shower, put on a film, sort herself some dinner or reheat it if you plate up. She navigates school for a lot longer.

She can pop over to your work to check in if she needs to.

He refuses to change shift pattern so picks up when he finishes. And rope off in the morning so I can take my middle to school and look after the baby while he's at work. Like I said he was abusive and controlling so I don't really know how to navigate this situation. I dont want to give up my job for my own mental health as selfish as that is but I will if I can't sort it out comfortably around my eldest

**drops

12 is old enough for her to be home until you get back. I had to do it with mine when I was in a similar position. And she was 12 too. Not ideal but it wasn't every day and she was fine.