So fed up, how to deal with this

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I kind of manage the work of three other people in my job ..one in the team works 6 hours a week less than me and does about a third of the work. Or less. I am getting seriously fed up and when I have fed this back to our manager, I get told to just give her the easy work and a lighter load as she has anxiety and flaps a lot. I also have anxiety and am getting treatment for this but no exceptions are made for me, in fact the opposite despite losing two close family members in the last 6 months. I'm also getting angry and resentful as when I get overwhelmed at work it affects my family and young child, whereas this person doesn't have kids.
They are on annual leave this week for two days, I absolutely know they will flap about it in our meeting Monday and some of their work will be expected to be covered by me even tho I'm also on annual leave the full week after. I'm spending my weekend seething about it. I get that I seem unkind but it seems exceptions are only made for them. I can never manage my own work constantly worried that theirs is going to be piled on me also.
Wtf do I do about this?

If her anxiety is long term and it affects her daily functioning then it can be classed as a disability.
She is entitled to be assessed for reasonable adjustments, but the key word here is REASONABLE.

So some people may be given longer to complete tasks, which actually means they are doing less of the work. But I've never heard of anyone doing that much less!

I would get her referred to occupational health for them to assess what adjustments she actually needs in order to do the job she's paid for and take it from there.
And if I were you I would stop picking up the slack. You need this to come to a head so the workloads get looked at and that's only likely to happen if there's work left uncovered

@Photio
Thank you. Yes I know I need to stop picking up the slack but the attitude of my manager is that oh her work is easy so you can do it in no time, which doesn't make it easy when you have already plenty to do. Or alternatively she will say well she needs to get it done but not to her face.
I have no doubt she has already gone through occupational health etc and any adjustments are more than reasonable as she does so bloody little, at the expensive of the rest of the team