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Not feeling part of the team

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mammasmadhouse · 11/09/2023 19:41

I work in a small team, there are 3 of us who have the same job title, although the roles vary slightly. I am not based with the rest of the team but we are all managed by the same line manager, who is also based with my 2 colleagues. We don't meet as a team, but I do have monthly 1:21's with my LM. My 2 colleagues & LM will meet to discuss areas of concern that overlap our roles, for both learning and improvement purposes but I am not included at the moment. The rest of the team are similar age and younger than me, but I have always thought that I am friendly and approachable although I am quiet/reserved. I do feel slightly pushed out and at times lonely, and when I have previously mentioned improving comms routes it hasn't gone down well and has been taken out of context. I am an anxious overthinker and struggle with anxiety and confidence, some days this bothers me more than others, and I am just not sure how to play this game anymore. One to ones just seem to be my manager taking notes about things I say and regurgitating to my LM boss, nothing changes when I flag problems or ask for help. As a result I am struggling to trust my LM, and this may well be me and how my brain is processing the way the team works. I am trying to build networks within other areas, both with previous areas I have worked in and in areas that have roles similar to mine. How else can I approach this? How can I make 1-2-1's more effective and less of a chore? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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CharlotteStreetW1 · 11/09/2023 19:53

I guess it's a case of out of sight out of mind. Doesn't make it right.

Is there a reason you can't be based with them?

mammasmadhouse · 11/09/2023 20:57

@CharlotteStreetW1 thank you for your reply, I am based with a specialist team, which is a nuance of my role.

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BigFatLiar · 11/09/2023 21:04

As said out of sight. Also if your role is in a specialist area do they have someone else available. It may be that having you in a role is good for them, advancing you may be an issue in back filling. A problem in being the specialist, moving you from there becomes an issue.

jclm · 11/09/2023 21:35

How long have you been there for? Is it time to look around for promotion or a side step?

mammasmadhouse · 12/09/2023 07:17

Hi @jclm , I have been in post for 12 months,, I do largely enjoy my job, the politics does get to me and some of that is I guess that I take it too personally but I am not sure how else to take it. I do keep an eye on the job boards, so self protection is on the radar.

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peanutbutterandbananas · 12/09/2023 07:24

Is there an agenda for the meetings so you can prepare something to contribute on "their" topics? Maybe bonding out of work that may help, even birthday cards or a seasonal get together, but don't try too hard. It's good you're already aware. Writing down concrete things that you experience may help you stay objective about it, so it isn't muddled with any feelings of anxiety. It may take time?

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