How to manage arrogance in a team

[Victoriaplum1]

Just that really. I will keep it fairly non descriptive and anonymous for obvious reasons.

I am early 40s and recently returned to work in the LD field as a support worker. A lot of my experience lies in this area and I enjoy the work. Now my DC are older I felt it was time to step back into something I am passionate about. So, stepped into my new SW job 1 month ago, with a view to using the experience to progress later on. I am in a team of 2. My colleague started two months ago and is 20 yo. No issue from me with age, background, education so no unconscious bias there. This colleague has left university and worked as a SW previously for a short period of time. Again not an issue. However what I am finding is her constant over confidence and arrogance really irritating. Asking if I would like to be given work (I have work already), never bothering to be friendly and say good morning when I arrive, her know it all attitude and her whole I'm better than you attitude and purely over confidence.

Wondering whether this is just me, I am a very calm, cool, kind and not overly confident. Could this just be me? If not how do I cope with people like this? She is very much trying to run the show and the manager clearly doesn't care. I need to be confident for my role, which I am but not to the level of this person.

Anyone else dealt with similar or perhaps it's just personal to me!

What is LD and sw you are referring to? Wondering what industry you're in.

But it's not unusual, or just you, no. Plenty of arrogance and rudeness around in the workplace. Usually covering crippling insecurity and low self esteem, but doesn't mean its not annoying to deal with

I worked in a similar role with two 20yo and found it impossible. No life experience but full of the arrogance. Also quite work shy.

I moved on somewhere I wasn't being paid the same - with my years of experience- with the lazy know it alls.

I genuinely believe jobs like this needs life experience!

Thanks. Sorry, LD is learning disability and SW is support worker.

@supertiredallthetime I'm sorry you're experienced the same. Its a new role, although not planning on staying forever. I absolutely agree any kind of role like this needs the calmness, kindness and life experience. Of course the confidence and arrogance may come into its own when having to discuss situations with medics. Any tips appreciated, I need this role to get my experience back and learn how to deal with these people!

Having loved my ten years as a LD support work I left it behind two months ago to work within social care but a different area. Working by myself half at home half on visits with my caseload and working Monday to Friday.
I loved the work but I was tired of low morale within the industry (include myself), I was tired of working with difficult colleagues- some very good some very negative and some arrogant.
It's only now I realise how stressed it made me that combined with low hours.
My advice to you is smile, plough through it but if it's making you unhappy move jobs. It isn't worth it

You can smile and tell her "thank you for the help/ suggestion, I speak to our manager if I need extra work or support" or a variation of that.

Do you both report to the same manager?

If so I'd raise it with them, informally at first instance.

If she's fresh out of Uni and new to the world of work she may need some 'guidance'. I did at that age...

She's 20, fresh out of uni and knows everything. I was the same in my first few years at work. The bigger issue is that your manager doesn't appear to care and won't do anything.

I'd be moving on. Or you could wait for her to trip and fall flat on her face nd learn some humility but that might take a long time.