hi there. I was hoping someone in any of these sectors could help me please. I have just applied for a voluntary role within a refuge with the end goal of being an IDVA. I was in an abusive relationship for ten years and would now like to help other women. For me it would give purpose to the abuse I’ve endured and also I feel like I’ve been on every side of the services so would have a lot of first hand experience (social services, dash risk assessments, refuges etc) . I honestly think i would be good at the work.
The reason I would like advice is because I want to know if I’m actually cut out for it. I want to help but it is going to be something I would struggle with mentally? I’ve had my share of trauma but What if someone’s trauma is worse? Does it haunt you forever? How do sleep at night knowing what some poor lady/children has been through? How do you switch off? I just want to know if I’m strong enough. I am desperate to advocate for other women now but how do you cope with other people’s trauma?
thank you in advance