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Advice please -moved to a new city for a job

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Bekind1991 · 14/08/2023 15:51

Hi,

i am 32 single moved to Cambridge U.K. for a corporate job, been here 12 months. Lived in Manchester previously.

I am not enjoying the place. I can’t seem to settle, I don’t have friends and I feel I dont belong here. I have no real social life and just seem to pass the time with nothing to look forward to. I had a vibrant social life in Manchester but also I was in my
20s so I am conscious that I am looking back and I may just now be in another stage of my life.

i thought moving to a new place I would make friends through work and settle in but I feel miserable, and it has not been easy to make connections through work as most people are older than me, have families, work a couple of days in the office etc. I have done anything social with work collègues. I get my energy from people so I am finding it hard to even be motivated now, as my job is quite siloed but I like to make connections and a bit of fun.

I don’t know what to do, should I just leave and go somewhere else?.
Is it a Combination of a new place and the job not being a culture fit for me.

I think I am craving connection but my job is here and moving back to where my parents would be an hour and half commute, so I am trying to figure out the options and why I feel like this to try and make a plan moving forward without doing throwing anything away. My job is very well paid so scared to make the wrong decision and regretting it but also I feel I am not happy in this situation.

I am conscious about looking back in the past for example going back on Manchester and it not been the same or if it would be a better move for me because I am more aligned to a bigger city with more to do. Cambridge I feel does not offer me much to do, and I feel bored here.

Does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation?. Thank you for reading.

OP posts:
Angie147836 · 15/08/2023 08:04

I feel for you. Your social life if not going to be the same as you get older - things would have probably quietened down even if you were still in Manchester - but there is no reason you can't have one in Cambridge.

Finding friends through work hasn't worked out, so make it a priority to look for friends elsewhere. It's time to join some clubs - tennis or squash club, yoga class, book group etc..... whatever your interests are - and then follow up on turning new acquaintances into friends by asking them out for a drink or round for supper or out to an exhibition or whatever.

Hoooodoyouthink · 15/08/2023 08:12

Have you joined meet up or any clubs/gym/hobbies?

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