Venting about grievance

[whatisforteamum]

So for nearly a yr I was ostracized and at best bullied by my colleagues.
I didn't want to quit due to good condition s and thought it would blow over...wrong.
I then requested an informal chat.
Nothing improved.
Then another colleague informed me of more dreadful behaviour they had witnessed and worried for my m health.
I told my manager who did nothing and said I could take it higher so I did.
This was a month ago.I lodged a grievance.
Investigation is still on going.
I can't help thinking they hope some one will quit.
I do have other offers .WWYD

I read online many bullying and harassment cases are not upheld.

Well, it depends on what you want, so what we would do isn't really relevant, is it? Have you asked them how long it's likely to take to investigate the grievance? Have you checked your contract for guidelines about grievance policy?

Life is too short to spend it on this kind of toxic shit tbh. It is all too easy to trap yourself in a horrible situation because you don't want "them" to win, but if you are left unhappy as a result that is no kind of victory for you anyway. If you have other offers that don't disadvantage you then my advice is to take one and don't look back, the best revenge is a life lived well.

Raquelos I think I agree.
Don't let the bullies win becomes a hollow victory if I get to still see them every day.
Knowing how hard the last yr has been.
I've wasted so much time thinking they would see how hard I work only to realise they are like mean girls and the boss is in the clique too.!

Most bullying grievances are not upheld but the point is more, as pp has said, what do you want from it? Different manager? Different work location? Change to policy?

It may be the grievance is upheld and nothing changes. Or it may not be and work do instigate some changes to improve the situation (this is what happened to me and things have been great ever since). Or absolutely nothing may happen.

But by raising the grievance you are highlighting that you feel there are serious and significant issues so personally I think that is better than walking away - the other opportunities may still be there if you want to move in future.

Are you in a union?

No no union.
Just me with zero support as they all have each other's support.
Tbh I didn't expect to be asked about my thoughts on my boss,s support or distinct lack of it.
So perhaps I've opened a bigger can of worms than I intended.

Owlbabiesarecute what happened in your case.?

@whatisforteamum

I do have other offers .WWYD

To be honest, if you have other job offers elsewhere which provide at least the same career progression, better salary and decent commute why not would resign and leave them to it? 🌹

Newestname002 I'm thinking the same tbh.
As I've never had such a nasty experience by the team I'm hoping this is a complete one off.
Tbh it has completely put me off all female teams .

@whatisforteamum was v happy at work, then boss of my section retired. New guy took against me, told me to my face that everyone else was better than me and made life very hard. It was all so stressful.

I took out a grievance and didn't win because he always told me this crap away from anyone else. And when questioned he said he had not said any of it, bloody coward.

I then kept raising issues with him to the MD who finally moved me. I now work for someone who is lovely and gentle and honest! Horrible man left and I am VERY honest about what he was like!

Oh that is awful yet quite common I think.Ive worked in a place where a new company took over and the manager didn't like me.He made my life a misery for a while.
I've mostly been lucky though.
My latest place my boss told me the others hate me.
I get along fantastically with the other staff in other depts though.
All v nice chatty and friendly.
My last place practically begged me to go back too.
Strange how work can make or break our day.

Get a new job, and then consider a constructive dismissal claim.

We'll I got updated today.
Things have improved atmosphere wise.
I need to meet them half way now.
Hard when they have made my life miserable.
I'm still going to interviews though as it is a long way back from a yr being treated poorly.
Hopefully it has at least pulled them up on work relationships.