Feel so guilty about resigning after 6 months

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I started a new job at the beginning of the year and have been really struggling with it. My line manager left just after I joined and wasn’t replaced so now I report in to someone very senior who is nice but doesn’t have time or capacity to support me.

The job involves travel which was never made clear - overnight stays on average once a month, which is hard to manage as I have young kids.

I’m meant to be part time (agreed by the previous line manager) but this doesn’t work at all as no changes were made to the role so my workload is the same as my predecessor who was full time. But even if I were full time the workload would be unmanageable in my view, I often need to work in the evenings.

People are generally ok but there are exceptions, someone very senior made me cry recently as they were so rude to me (thankfully nobody saw!!) This hasn’t happened to me in years so I felt really pathetic!

So anyway. I decided I may as well start looking at jobs and I’ve just been offered one. It’s a part time role 20 minutes from my house. Team seems lovely and supportive. No travel. Lower pay but better annual leave. I think I want to take it but I am feeling SO guilty.

How can I resign after 6 months? I know they will be absolutely furious and I will be leaving them in the lurch as the workload is frankly insane and they will struggle to manage it without me. I also have two direct reports who I really like and I feel guilty for leaving them behind. Its a mid senior role so it will be noticed and people will comment about the fact I’ll be leaving after not even a year.

What should I do, should I stick it out longer? I feel awful.

Just leave. Yes, it might be a tricky few months but it's worth it for a happier future
We had a colleague who resigned after a week for a different job they'd interviewed for, and one who didn't turn up at all as they'd accepted 2 jobs. Those made me role my eyes a bit. Worst that happened was that the first didn't integrate into the team. We were still polite and invited them to stuff and wished them well.

Don't feel guilty. They put you in the lurch. Ridiculous agreeing to turn a full time job into part time with no workload change, plus not replacing your manager with at least someone that can fulfil the requirements

Gosh, you owe them nothing, and you're replaceable, we all are. Get gone, life is too short. Good luck with your next endeavour and hope it works out better for you.

Just leave. The workload problem is their issue not yours. 6 months is way longer many ppl stay at places that aren't working out.

I'm exactly the same. Two weeks in. They told me a certain salary at interview then when my contract came through they said that salary wasn't until probation passed, said one day a week in the office and now it's two. It has been a nightmare from day 1, IT things not set up yet expected to start the role properly from day2. with out the proper tools to do the job. The stress has been unbelievable and I'm hoping to return to my old job that I left 3 weeks ago.

If it s a big company, you must have a role description somewhere
If you were made to travel without it being mentioned, to take over duties that were never part of it, don t you have legal recourse as well?

from what you've said you'd be absolutely mad not to take the new job. You've been there 6 months and you're already hating it, imagine how low you'll feel when you've been there a few years.

Who care's about their reactions? The job has been missold and senior staff member has been so rude they've made you cry - they have only themselves to blame for you leaving. They might be annoyed in the short term but in 2 years they won't even remember your name, and if it's as bad for everyone else as it is for you half of them might have left by then anyway. I would spend the 3 months notice doing fuck all to help anyone other than the 2 people who report directly to you.

By the time you've worked your notice you'll have been there 9 months, that's a perfectly normal period, lots of maternity covers, for example are between 6m to a year. Plus if it's the same organisation you can just list the whole time period as one, i.e.
2015-2023 - X company. Started/spent several years as x role (responsibilities x,y,z), then promoted to y role (responsibilities a,b,c) rather than saying how long you were in each role.

Look after number one

Don’t give them a second thought and just resign.

You could be the absolute model colleague there for 10 years with no sick days and they would still not hesitate to make you redundant if they want to.

You could be the absolute model colleague there for 10 years with no sick days and they would still not hesitate to make you redundant if they want to

Yup. I did 12 years at one place. Weekends, overtime, overnighters, foreign trips. Still got made redundant. Screw 'em all.