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Nagging co-workers

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 13:20

Ok, I had enough of being constantly micro managed and fed up of new co-worker taking over the already utterly annoying nagging bitch of my manager as she is off on holidays.

The manager wanna-be just send constant emails asking me to reply to her already huge email explaining what I am doing hour but hour and what are my priorities ?
I've been working in the company much longer than her, and I simply sucked it al up for 3 years. There is constant bullying, harassing and nagging . It's unbearable to the point that I gave up and moved on. Im on my last week and this nagging cow keeps sending this email as she wants things in writing to "control" what im doing and to relay to the other bitch when she is back.
I am reluctant to use the phrase go fuck your self, but I want to keep a nice environment until the day I leave.
What do you suggest I do / reply to the constant harassment and micro manage my e coming from this other manager to be ?

I am a very nice person and easy to work with before you ask, but the whole environment is a bed of bullying and disharmony, bad team work, everybody slagging everybody off,
Reason why I am happily leaving :)

Thank you

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PronounWanker · 22/06/2023 13:21

It's unbearable to the point that I gave up and moved on. Im on my last week

Do you mean tomorrow's your last day at this workplace? You're leaving?

PronounWanker · 22/06/2023 13:22

Sorry, I can now see that you are leaving.

You have a new job lined up? Tomorrow is your last day?

Zola1 · 22/06/2023 13:23

Are you on any sort of performance plan? Could there be any sort of worries about your productivity or professionalism etc?
If not, she sounds like a control freak. If so, this is quite standard if you're concerned what someone's doing with their work time

WhenIWasAFieldMyself · 22/06/2023 13:24

Your language rather belies you being a "nice person".

If the colleague is standing in for your manager while your manager is on holiday then she is your manager and has every right to make sure you're doing the job you're being paid for.

If you have so much bother with not one, but two managers, then maybe the problem isn't them.

PronounWanker · 22/06/2023 13:25

You have four options:

  • Reply professionally, but in your own time, giving her all the information she needs.
  • Reply unprofessionally, telling her to go fuck herself.
  • Don't reply at all. Let her keep sending the emails, leave them unread. If she mentions something to you just say you'll get back to her when you have chance. And then just don't.
  • Claim illness, walk out, go home, phone in sick tomorrow and get on with your life.
TragicMuse · 22/06/2023 13:27

Is she your manager? Or senior to you in role?

If no, she can do one! There's no obligation to reply to her if she isn't in any position to influence your work or help your workload.

I'd just ignore her. If it escalated I'd be tempted to put a rule on my mailbox to move all her emails to some holding subfolder and have an auto reply with 'noted'. Nothing more.

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 22/06/2023 13:34

If tomorrow is your last day have some fun.

Answer her email in detail and end with "and now having answered your many and oft repeated questions about my progress on many and varied tasks I can confirm that many remain incomplete as I gave your incessant need for updates priority"

Copy in anyone you feel like.

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 22/06/2023 13:36

WhenIWasAFieldMyself · 22/06/2023 13:24

Your language rather belies you being a "nice person".

If the colleague is standing in for your manager while your manager is on holiday then she is your manager and has every right to make sure you're doing the job you're being paid for.

If you have so much bother with not one, but two managers, then maybe the problem isn't them.

Yeah. Cos coming here to offload is the same as sharing any of that to someone

Micromanagers need to be told to step off by someone. Most people hope that staff leaving will actually do this and that it might have some effect.

Quveas · 22/06/2023 13:44

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 22/06/2023 13:36

Yeah. Cos coming here to offload is the same as sharing any of that to someone

Micromanagers need to be told to step off by someone. Most people hope that staff leaving will actually do this and that it might have some effect.

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Possibly true. Or possibly some people need closer managing. But when you resort to calling people cows and bitches, I don't care whether you are letting off steam or not - it is pretty appalling and doesn't lend itself to people thinking you may not be at least part of the problem.

HelplessSoul · 22/06/2023 14:03

If its your last week, let the stupid idiot email you.

Simply dont reply.

Fuck her.

Aprilx · 22/06/2023 14:06

Why would you let this bother you if this is your last week and presumably tomorrow your last day? She is perhaps trying to make sure that there has been a good handover before you leave and particularly in your managers absence. It is you that is really not coming across very well here.

LlynTegid · 22/06/2023 22:04

Reply to the ones of least use.

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:30

PronounWanker · 22/06/2023 13:22

Sorry, I can now see that you are leaving.

You have a new job lined up? Tomorrow is your last day?

Hi, yes, I have another job lined up and next week is my last week :) thank you

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:33

Zola1 · 22/06/2023 13:23

Are you on any sort of performance plan? Could there be any sort of worries about your productivity or professionalism etc?
If not, she sounds like a control freak. If so, this is quite standard if you're concerned what someone's doing with their work time

No plans at all,
Since my first day there was no training, no instructions, things changed all the time, procedures changes every single day, no performance or career prospect.
I am very productive, not bragging, but I know how much I have done and achieved. Simply the company is a completely mess throw in the hands of incompetent managers that have zero experience in the job and even less people's skills

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:39

WhenIWasAFieldMyself · 22/06/2023 13:24

Your language rather belies you being a "nice person".

If the colleague is standing in for your manager while your manager is on holiday then she is your manager and has every right to make sure you're doing the job you're being paid for.

If you have so much bother with not one, but two managers, then maybe the problem isn't them.

That can be possible but bearing in mind that the whole company enjoys working with me and are extremely upset that I am leaving because I don't bully or harass them, but instead I respect, understand and work as a team on their side to get what I need form them done instead of demand and micromanage them, says a lot about it.
But thanks for your point of view. Both my manager and the other employee teaming up to make my last days as terrible as possible because they will feel the difference that not having me will make on them is not ok, they are horrible people, not me.

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:41

PronounWanker · 22/06/2023 13:25

You have four options:

  • Reply professionally, but in your own time, giving her all the information she needs.
  • Reply unprofessionally, telling her to go fuck herself.
  • Don't reply at all. Let her keep sending the emails, leave them unread. If she mentions something to you just say you'll get back to her when you have chance. And then just don't.
  • Claim illness, walk out, go home, phone in sick tomorrow and get on with your life.

Hi,
Thank you for all the options that you mentioned, I will think about them all tomorrow Wink

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:46

TragicMuse · 22/06/2023 13:27

Is she your manager? Or senior to you in role?

If no, she can do one! There's no obligation to reply to her if she isn't in any position to influence your work or help your workload.

I'd just ignore her. If it escalated I'd be tempted to put a rule on my mailbox to move all her emails to some holding subfolder and have an auto reply with 'noted'. Nothing more.

Hahaha that's another great idea !
No, no senior, no nothing, she is there much less time that I have been, she's just been make in charge to harass everyone while the manager is on holiday.
I will add a rule to redirect her emails and don't respond, great !

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:49

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 22/06/2023 13:34

If tomorrow is your last day have some fun.

Answer her email in detail and end with "and now having answered your many and oft repeated questions about my progress on many and varied tasks I can confirm that many remain incomplete as I gave your incessant need for updates priority"

Copy in anyone you feel like.

LOL, I absolutely loved this.
I have screenshot it and will do this tomorrow haha
Thank you

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lookingforchangenowww · 22/06/2023 23:51

HelplessSoul · 22/06/2023 14:03

If its your last week, let the stupid idiot email you.

Simply dont reply.

Fuck her.

I will certainly do that thank you !

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lookingforchangenowww · 23/06/2023 00:01

Aprilx · 22/06/2023 14:06

Why would you let this bother you if this is your last week and presumably tomorrow your last day? She is perhaps trying to make sure that there has been a good handover before you leave and particularly in your managers absence. It is you that is really not coming across very well here.

This might also be true but one simple email with the response that I have already done saying that it will be replied after my own priorities are fest with us enough, not threats of if you don't respond I will call you later, and sending emails after emails asking for the answer when she obviously knows that I have a lot to do.
I have already informed that a handover will be sent before I leave so no reason for the stress and constant nag.

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BuffyTheCat · 23/06/2023 00:01

I would not reply to an email asking me what I’m doing hour but hour. If asked about it, I’d say I’d assumed they were joking.

Not replying to emails can be effective in all kinds of circumstances. Obviously I reply to the emails that actually need a reply.

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lookingforchangenowww · 23/06/2023 00:17

BuffyTheCat · 23/06/2023 00:01

I would not reply to an email asking me what I’m doing hour but hour. If asked about it, I’d say I’d assumed they were joking.

Not replying to emails can be effective in all kinds of circumstances. Obviously I reply to the emails that actually need a reply.

I quite noticed this tatic coming from other members of staff about completely ghosting emails, but didn't realise it was efficient way of dealing with the inconvenience of keyboard warriors. I thought it was just simply rude for people not replying but I will certainly try this.

By my last week I mean I still have 3 more days to go 😭😭😭so I will have to nail these advises for a few more days !

Thank you

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lookingforchangenowww · 29/07/2023 10:26

Hey !!
just to let you all know that I moved on .
the New job is a dream and I am loving it ! Thank you all for your advises.
I can’t believe this is all behind now. 😘

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PronounWanker · 29/07/2023 16:28

Thanks for the update, OP.

Pleased things have worked out

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