I have EUPD so please be gentle if you can….

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How would you perceive this?

Monday in staff briefing, Head tells everyone there’s drinks happening on Friday after school.

Yesterday she sends email out and mentions the drinks again and says it’s at a local pub (but she doesn’t know the name).

Then I get a WhatsApp from her asking for my first aid certificate and she says ‘have a super week and I’ll see you after the break!’

I’m taking this to mean that there are drinks happening tonight, she’s ensuring everyone has been invited and is then telling me 1:1 in private that she won’t see me until after our week off. Meaning she won’t be seeing me tonight, therefore hinting that I shouldn’t go/or I’m not welcome.

is this my EUPD taking over or would others without my condition read it the way I have?

Oh bless, I was really hoping you'd be feeling up for going and would be able to enjoy yourself 😢

Could you go for a little while, scope it out, and if you feel uncomfortable, say you need to go home and leave? I really wouldn't read into your year partner not replying, something could have come up or her phone could be in another room charging, some reason like that.

@EverythingsCominUpMilhouse ah, thank you, that’s really kind of you to think this way.

I was hoping my year partner would’ve been able to let me know where it is (as I still don’t know which pub they’re at). It doesn’t matter, I’ll try not to read into all of this and I’ll just distract myself. I’ve got loads of planning to do now anyway, so once DH gets home I’ll just go off and plan lessons.

I’m thinking it might be a good idea to find a local group or something, so I can make friends outside of work. I think I ruminate on this work/social stuff as I actually don’t have any friends full stop. I’ll have to try and change that.

I had forgotten that you still didn’t know which pub they were going to! Completely understand your thinking, especially with all the additional workload you have.

I like the idea of finding a local group to join! If you can start a new hobby or continue with a hobby you already enjoy, that's an added bonus in my opinion. Even a local book club, which often ends up being a good excuse for a couple of glasses of wine (if that's your thing) and some good convo with people you otherwise wouldn't have met! It’s such a daunting thought meeting new people and making new friends, but once you’ve made the first step it will become so much easier and you’ll be so glad you took that first step ☺️