What do I do?

[Darktimes123]

Name changed as potentially outing

Started a thread which was much longer but lost it so will do a condensed version.

I'm in my notice.period. 3 weeks remaining. My job soley revolves around significant trauma. I work full time and am home based.

Very close family member diagnosed with serious illness, in treatment phase and prognosis un known. They have other health conditions which I support with when available, however other family member has had to take most caring duties due to my work. (Guilt!!)

My mental health has taken a massive nose dive, usually strong and resilient, now feels like everything is crashing down, can't concentrate, feel shakey, anxious, catastrophising eveuthing but also periods of numbness.

I cannot drop the ball at work, the consequences would be significant but I'm struggling. I don't know how I'm going to make it through the next 3 weeks. What do I do? I cannot think objectively. Any advice appreciated. Thank you

Speak to your manager, let them know what's going on and ask for compassionate leave.

If that fails, sign off sick with stress.

Seriously, take it from me, stress is no joke.

Speak to your manager

If you weren't in your notice period would you still be trying to work in this state?

That's a good question, no I wouldn't.

Thank you. My manager is aware of the situation and has asked me to reach out if I need anything. I just want to get my head down and get through my notice without any complications, however I'm concerned I may not be coping. The consequences in my role are too significant to ignore and is not something that can be brushed over, learn from and move on. This is heightening my anxiety more and impeding me to think clearly. It sounds so pathetic when I see it written down, I'm a strong person... I've message my manager to say I'm not good. She's in meeting all day so not sure.if we can have this discussion today. We will see.

Sorry to hear this OP. Definitely agree with other posters, ask for compassionate leave or visit the GP and get signed off sick. Well done for recognising that you need support and that stepping back is the right thing to do given the type of role you have. That takes a lot strength; you are absolutely not pathetic. Hope things improve for you soon

Thank you, I think I've been attempting to keep the lid on for too long and mistook that for coping. It feels like it is now bunbling over and I'm struggling to be/feel proportionate. I have a vital meeting this afternoon and will let my manager know I won't be in tomorrow and will be contacting the G.P. I wish I could just stop time, hide away and recover and step back in fighting fit but unfortunately that's not going to happen.