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Was I wrong or is my boss being unreasonable?

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BuzzieBo · 22/05/2023 22:32

Today at work, I did not feel well. A terrible headache. I saw my boss at lunch time and she said I could go home, but we were short staffed so I said I would stay.

I got EVERYTHING done and ended up leaving about 15 minutes before my shift ended as I still felt unwell. There's really was nothing left for me to do.

My boss then rang me saying I should of seen her and asked to leave early? She's not happy and said that if I was well enough to stay then I was well enough to complete the whole shift!?! She wants to talk about it tomorrow.... arrrgghh! Now I have a headache and feel sick with nerves!

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Littleworkaholic · 23/05/2023 10:10

BuzzieBo · 23/05/2023 09:08

If she had rang me saying she was worried about me and wanted to check I was OK, that would be more than fine, I would of appreciated it!

But that was definitely not the reason she called. She was annoyed and I feel she wanted me to worry about it overnight.

TBH makes apologising a bit harder when I feel that was her intention but I also think it's one of those things I am just going to have to do.

I can’t see she wanted uou to worry over night, that’s an odd thought, and she’s not your parent. Why would she phone to say she was worried about you?

Lefteyetwitch · 23/05/2023 11:08

BuzzieBo · 23/05/2023 09:08

If she had rang me saying she was worried about me and wanted to check I was OK, that would be more than fine, I would of appreciated it!

But that was definitely not the reason she called. She was annoyed and I feel she wanted me to worry about it overnight.

TBH makes apologising a bit harder when I feel that was her intention but I also think it's one of those things I am just going to have to do.

You went AWOL. In most places that's a big issue.
She's not your mum she doesn't have to call checking on you. She just has to care about your role in work.

Aprilx · 23/05/2023 16:10

BuzzieBo · 23/05/2023 09:08

If she had rang me saying she was worried about me and wanted to check I was OK, that would be more than fine, I would of appreciated it!

But that was definitely not the reason she called. She was annoyed and I feel she wanted me to worry about it overnight.

TBH makes apologising a bit harder when I feel that was her intention but I also think it's one of those things I am just going to have to do.

I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. It is perfectly reasonable for a manager to find out where a member of staff has gone when they disappear before their shift ends and without saying a word. She didn’t do this to make you worry all night, she did so to establish where you were. And she is not your mother, she doesn’t need to worry about you, she does need to be able to account for you.

And I do not understand why you would worry overnight about what I would assume to be a fairly benign conversation over leaving early protocol anyway. But yes you should apologise and say it won’t happen again, it was indeed a simple mistake / misunderstanding and neither of you need blow it out of proportion.

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