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Tearful - me and her!

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amethyst74 · 19/02/2008 13:49

I am going back to work half-time after Easter to a new job at my old work, and really looking forward to it, but ... I am very worried about my daughter who will be 11 months by then.

She'll be going to nursery - I have tried to get her used to being with other people, such as going to the local gym creche: first two times she was fine, then she screamed and screamed, which distressed me a lot. She's fine with her daddy taking care of her provided I am nowhere to be seen - if I am in the garden, say, she will whine/cry all the time.

Today (fifth visit overall to the creche) she started crying as we went in: I was crying too and made a total fool of myself in front of the creche staff, who were very nice. Sat with her for a few mins until she seemed fine, but as soon as I left the crying like the kid out of the Exorcist began!

My head says: you have to do this, she will get used to it and love it. But I fear being a total wreck while she "settles in" - can't bear the thought of her screaming all day long at nursery.

Would love to hear from someone who has been where I am now and come out the other side!

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mandy10 · 19/02/2008 14:08

Hi,
Have you thought about using a childminder or nanny instead. It is a big step from been at home to going to a nursery. At least with a childminder she will still get the homely environment she has with you.

amethyst74 · 19/02/2008 14:24

Well the nurseries (two - for reasons that seemed to make a lot of sense at the time!) are all booked now. But may have to review if things go as badly as I think they might.

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perpetualworrier · 19/02/2008 15:17

How is she at the creche once you've left?

My DS2 used to cry when I left him at the childminder's, but was Ok as soon as I was out of sight.

Just wondering if this would be the case for your Dd too, as she's Ok with Dad, as long as you're not there. She (and you) will get used to it and the nursery won;t mind you calling once you get to work to make sure everything's Ok.

Do the nursery have a settling in period? I know our local sure start one invites children to 2 free sessions, where mum can either stay with them, or be on hand in another room before they are left properly.

amethyst74 · 19/02/2008 20:56

Well, I've only left her for 20 mins or so during which she screamed angrily throughout. I have settling in for both which I hope will help ...

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