Manger from another department called me a liar

[corriequeen1431]

I am so upset by this.

There was a miscommunication a manager from another department told me that somebody else was picking up a task but that somebody thought I was doing it so the up shot is the task was missed.

The manger from the other department called me to a meeting and ask what happened. As I was trying to explain she became very aggressive and kept interrupting me. I apologised for the miscommunication multiple times. She informed me she was not interested in my apologies.

She then said 'I am going to lay my cards on the table, I don't like liars' I asked her if she was calling me a liar. She responded with yes.

I said that I was uncomfortable with her aggressive tone and name calling and I did not wish to continue the meeting. She asked me to rearrange the new for when I was comfortable. I replied, saying that I would not rearrange the meeting and that I will speak to my line manager about it.

She then said 'are you happy working here' I responded with 'yes, if I wasn't I would speak to my line manager'.

I then said, can I leave now. She said yes so I left the room.

I told my line manager what had happened and he said he would talk to her.

A few hours later my line manager said he spoke to her and she had asked if I would go and see her on the way to my car at home time. I said I wasn't comfortable but my line manager said it would be better if I could to stop the situation from escalating so I did.

When I got there she said that she wasn't interested in school behaviour and can we move on. I just said yes and that I had to go because of my children.

The next day she was overly nice to me, offering to make me drinks etc etc.

I am struggling with this. I feel so upset and I don't want to go to work now.

Any advice?

Wow, isn't she a cow!

You did really well to stand your ground, politely and firmly.

I don't think you can or should do anything more now. Your manager spoke to her, she offered her non-apology (very poor of her). Now you know what to expect from her.

It is upsetting but remember this is on her.

Such companies are crap. It is never going to end well for the people that this woman manages. It never does.

Thank you. I cried when I left but not in front of her.

I just don't want to be around her at all.

You need to log all of this

Sounds like your manager had you back and meeting you was probably because he pulled her up for it, perhaps expecting her to apologise?

Tell your manager you have thought it through overnight, it was upsetting, not what you expect in the workplace, you would have hoped for an apology but will move on from it. Ask if he thinks it would be beneficial to have a more formal process for requesting support from your team so everything is transparent, there are no miscommunications and everyone is happy.

OMG she sounds like a work place bully. People probably struggle to stand up to her so well done on getting your boss involved. I'd have it documented along with her half arsed apology. She'll think twice now how she speaks to you. Anymore nonsense from her then report her to her own line manager and HR.

Good for you. You stood up to her. Even if it was upsetting, she knows you’re not a pushover.

You did well to stand up to her in such a calm way.

You need to write down what happened in detail, with dates and times, so you have a clear record.

How long have you been at the company? Does the company have a HR department and any policies?

I would be looking for another job.

Any future requests for meetings should be given in writing with 24 hours notice and with a note taker, that way everything will be recorded