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Being 'blamed', toxic workplace

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PintoMilk · 03/05/2023 21:47

I am leaving a very toxic workplace after two years. I managed three staff and had various management responsibilities, there is high staff turnover throughout and one of the directors I reported to was an unpleasant bully. Thank goodness I am leaving!

My new job is starting in a week. It has occurred to me, that I, as many others around the toxic business I'm leaving, will be blamed for any failings, mistakes,faults etc once I've left.

Is there any risk to me due to this? I know I can't be blamed for anything catastrophic (we are talking office work, not surgery!). But I find it annoying and a bit stressful for example, that one of my direct reports will abdicate all responsibility for any work she did with mistakes and blame me (I've seen her do this before). I won't be there to defend myself.

Hopefully I'm stressing about nothing? I have no interest in returning to that workplace, my new employer already has a good reference for me. Any negative chat after I've gone will be irrelevant?

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corriequeen1431 · 03/05/2023 22:00

Don't worry. Smile and wave!!
When you walk out the door, don't look back and erase the place from your memory xx

AuroraForever · 03/05/2023 22:13

Don’t worry whatsoever. There won’t be any risk to you and you won’t be around to hear it or have to defend yourself anyway. Just be safe in the knowledge that you’re moving on to a better place leaving all the toxicity and negativity behind you. The direct report staff you’re leaving behind will go on making mistakes, new ones which wont be attributable to you, and they will be found out eventually!

PintoMilk · 03/05/2023 22:59

Thanks. I have seen previous members of staff who have left get blamed for everything and anything, which I think is very unfair. I'm so relieved to be leaving and know that I'll no longer be stuck in that toxic environment.

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Motheranddaughtertotwo · 03/05/2023 23:01

It is unfair but try not to care. You have your new job which will hopefully be in a non-toxic environment, you’ll be in a better place so let them talk.

Crazycrazylady · 04/05/2023 17:14

Absolutely you'll be blamed but that's pretty standard. I.my out team we're joking at the minute that we need someone else to leave fairly soon as the gap since the last person has left is getting a bit long .

Guineasrule · 04/05/2023 17:52

I left a role 2 years ago which had become toxic due to shoddy managers not having the balls to admit their mistakes. I took the blame for these then and I hear I am still been blamed for things not being done to this day.

Just let it go. It reflects more of them, not you.

PintoMilk · 05/05/2023 22:09

I guess it really does reflect more on them. I was seriously over worked and some others really didn't pull their weight. It's easy to scapegoat the person who has left. I guess it has no bearing on my future, I've gone, hopefully hard work recognised and rewarded in the new job.

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