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am i being silly??

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:21

hi all!
i have gone back to college to do an access course so i could go onto midwifery training, but im starting to think i should just get a job around the kids.
just seems when im at college, got assignments deadlines i get soo stressed which the kids pick up on.
have been thinking the last few days that i should get a p/time job at tescos to fit around the kids school hours. and give up the college. dont think i will be able to swing the childcare if i got to nursing college!
i just dont want to work for tesco's all my life! dont get me wrong nowt wrong with working for em, i work for sainsburys for 6 years! i just want a career that i enjoy!
what does everyone think ishould do??

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spacedonkey · 08/12/2004 22:23

You're not being silly at all, but I do think it would be a shame if you had to give up your college course and you could end up really regretting it later. Is there any way you could get more help/support with childcare to free you up to concentrate a bit more on your studies?

pixiefish · 08/12/2004 22:23

stick with it, have you got a dh/dp who could take some of the pressure off

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:29

yeah have dh, but hes tied up with his work,and i dont wanna put anymore pressure on him!
well the girls are at school now, and i have got ds in nursery 1 morning and 2 afternoons a week!
just feel like im letting them down, and that i should spend more time with them...y'know like when they want to read their books to me and i say" wait a minute i gotta tidy up/make dinner/ wash up " etc
makes me feel like a bad mum!

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SenoraPostrophe · 08/12/2004 22:29

Any kind of work with kids is stressful, you're not being silly.

But like the others I think you should stick with it if it's what you want to do.

I think you should set aside certain times to study/ do assignments and give yourself a deadline of a week before the actual deadline if you can. It can be much less stressful if you organise yourself (says the queen of the disorganised. I've manges to get organised a couple of times though and it was good.)

But on the other hand like you say, there's nothing wrong with working for Tescos - it's just not very fulfilling.

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:30

i think failing my biology exam hit me hard this week too Sad

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spacedonkey · 08/12/2004 22:30

Another option could be to put it on hold until your youngest is at school?

SenoraPostrophe · 08/12/2004 22:31

You're not a bad mum though - you don't need to spend all your free time with the kids. Lots of mums work full time and still bring up perfectly well-balanced, healthy children.

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:32

mmnn, i know!
i started this course last sept but quit in feb this year as kids werent sleeping all that well, and i was pooped!
i dont want to be a failure and quit again....

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:33

wouldnt be so bad if they werent all so highly strung,lol! are all kids as bad?? we get in from school they are at each others throats, and i spend my time shouting at em or prizing em apart,lol!!

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JoolsTide · 08/12/2004 22:35

I think sd's last post sounds like a good compromise. Sounds to me like you really want to do this course but you're pulled the other way too by your family which is natural. IMO I don't think while you feel like this that you're going to the course your best - so if it were me I think I'd wait a year or two - it still won't be easy though!

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:38

maybe i should get all me exams out of the way this week and see what a mess ive made and decided then!

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spacedonkey · 08/12/2004 22:39

It sounds as if you're trying to do too much at the moment, so you're feeling like you're not doing anything properly and ending up feeling a failure at everything. My advice is to make a plan - if you're going to continue with your course you need more support with the children (family? friends? an arrangement with other mums on the same course?), or make the decision to put the course on hold for now, but make a date in your own mind (and discuss this with your tutor) when you will go back. That way, whatever you decide, you're not a failure, you're taking control of the situation.

SenoraPostrophe · 08/12/2004 22:43

spacedonkeymonkey is the wise woman of mumsnet.

Can ds go to nursery more often? (you'll feel guilty initially, but it wears off, I promise)

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sassybabee · 08/12/2004 22:46

aww arent you lot great!! thanks for the advice!!
i can only put him in when im not at college,which i have done already!
i got registered as a childminder in may , but havent done any yet maybe i should try that??!!

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tiredemma · 10/12/2004 10:22

if nutcracker/christmas cracker comes on here she will have some advice for you, she ended the course for the same reasons as you.
is your course fulltime? could you not change and do the part time course?
im doing it parttime, to be honest id find the fulltime course tough.
think about why you wanted to start the course and maybe you can draw your answer from that.

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sassybabee · 10/12/2004 17:47

I am doing it part time,lol!! still finding it hard!
got biology exam back today and PASSED!! 59%!!
over the last few days been really thinking about jacking it in, but when you actually get a pass you look on it in a different light!

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