Shouted at manager

[Ohdrat]

Hello,

After some advice, i shouted at my manager as had a really busy day and was asked to do a task twice in the space of fifteen minutes (it was a quick task) I was running late though.

She looked shocked, we don't usually swear at work.

What will happen?

Have you apologised to her? That might go a long way to smooth things over.

How do you get on with her normally?

Sort of, mumbled I was sorry.

Okay normally

You shouted at her, or swore at her. Can't say what she'll do obviously, but there's a difference. If someone shouted at me I'd probably have a chat with them to find out why. I might not take it any further. I might, at most, warn them not to do it again.

If someone swore at me it is inappropriate under any circumstances- a strong informal warning possibly, but it could be a formal disciplinary.

Perhaps take her aside and offer a more full apology, explain you felt under pressure.

Hard to say what will happen, really depends on how things normally go at your workplace. I've had heated arguments with managers before and it's just blown over.

Thanks for
It was both shouting with swearing mixed in , feel a bit silly

I can't see the manager reacting in any way to be honest! I lost my rag with an ex manager, told him to stuff his job up his arse and walked. He came running after me begging me to reconsider so I came back 😂. Your manager might want to sit you down and ask if your ok and are things getting on top of you. More worried about you than angry with you.

Like ‘I’m fucking getting to it, in a minute’ or ‘fuck off and leave me alone’? Quite different.

The first one

The problem here is the mumbled half apology. I don’t take offence- swear at me, w/e. You apologise after and everything is fine. We all lose it, me included. Not being sorry is the problem.

Apologise, move on.

Depends on your work culture. Your manager may end up approaching and apologising to you for expecting you to pull miracles out of your arse. Or you may be sacked. You should have a better idea than us.

In a previous job, where I wouldn’t say boo to a goose, I said to my manager “you are fucking joking”

He said “no I’m not” and walked off

It was never mentioned again but I was mortified!

It's impossible to say. If someone lost it as a one off with me I wouldn't think too much of it - we all get stressed sometimes. Swearing doesn't bother me as I swear a lot myself. But without knowing your manager I've no idea.

You need to grow up and do a proper apology.

Take control of the situation, ask to speak to your manager, explain that you were stressed but that that doesn't justify the way you spoke to them and apologise.

Hopefully they'll brush it off and say that they know and aren't bothered, if they have been feeling upset then you've done the reasonable thing of apologising.

Why don't you ask your manager for 10 minutes of their time today.

Start off by apologising. Say you're sorry you shouted and you shouldn't have sworn.

Secondly you need to then have a conversation with your manager about your work loads if this was the reason you're getting so stressed

Secondly ask their opinion on how to respond to requests for work in the future, or how they can better request stuff from you, if you're already very busy. Can they prioritise your work or something along those lines

Use this as an opportunity to have a 'cards on table' chat about how you're feeling at work, stressed, strains etc.

It really does depend on your workplace, as a manager I have had an employee lose it at me, they were not stressed, just in a rotten mood. I never brought it up with them again, however they never apologised and that made me look at them very differently.
Your manager will understand, it does depend on your workplace, mine would be a last written warning and my previous employer would be gross misconduct. I know people get stressed so unless there is a pattern I would shrug it off.