Manager contacting outside of work

[Macmeme]

Hi. I’m a little thick. Just wondering what ‘rules’ are with manager contacting staff outside work? Never had a manager text before (unless we’re all in a grou chat wher obvs everyone is).

so I’m new to my team (months in), it’s hybrid working, I don’t really know anyone well enough to ask whether this is the done thing. manager phoned me one weekend evening (I missed the call) then texted with questions about a place to go at the weekend (that wed briefly discussed on teams so he could’ve looked on work phone for that convo but anyway was friendly so didn’t think much of it ). I replied with quick to the point answers. the following week he went on a do not disturb for a week (not been done before but could be for any reason I guess). Then every conversation on teams/ phone/ brief face to face since has been strictly work related. I then messaged to ask if they’d enjoys the place and it was ignored. So basically sticking to the work chat now 😂

Aanyway what’s gone on here? Has he realised he shouldn’t have contacted me
oitside of work and now enforcing boundaries? Or is any non work chat on his terms or what? Anyway sticking to the work chat.

I’m obviously just sticking to the strictly work chat rule now.

I think it depends a lot on the culture and individual relationships. My boss has been messaging me over the weekend about work and non-work things and I'm fine with that but it's up to you if you want to set boundaries. I wouldn't worry about it, you've acted totally appropriately.

I would stick to work chat only, can't be doing with that nonsense he's doing.

Personally I have a zero tolerance of being contacted outside work. I had to give my number to a couple of people before I had a work phone when i started my current job a year ago in a very specific work emergency situation. I'd told them it was by exception. They kept messaging me rubbish after and I blocked them both.

My manager and I get on really, really well. We have exchanged numbers but we have ground rules for contact ie very emergency only. It doesn't affect our working relationship!