Telling new job in pregnant

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I started a new job late last year and I wasn't pregnant, went to all the Christmas events, drank etc. I'm now pregnant and will have my probation meeting shortly.

I really like the company, everyone is friendly and it a very well known company in the industry I'm in.

I'm not sure how to tell them I'm pregnant and it's really bothering me, I also don't know when to tell them and if it's appropriate for the probation meeting.

They looveeee after work drink too 😩

Can I get and tip/ advice or any previous situations similar to mine?

Oh I had to do this too. Got pregnant a few weeks after starting a new job 😬. I can’t remember if I told them before or after probation. It doesn’t really matter, you just need to tell them at some point. I told my boss after I’d had the first scan (around 13 or 14 weeks). I know a lot of women leave it later but I didn’t want to. She was very good about it when I told her, although I did get the odd dig a few times later, I think after I returned to work. The job wasn’t exactly as I’d been led to believe and I didn’t think I’d get pregnant so quickly! Good luck.

It is a balancing act also are you in a high risk job in terms of pregnancy . Also some people it’s difficult with sickness so need to make employers aware earlier

@DocMart That's the thing, so early on in the role and still learning a lot about the company. It's so hard to gauge how they will take it as I know they will put on a happy front but may have different conversations about me amongst themselves (senior staff) we work in small teams too and it seems like since I've started it's made it very balance and easier for everyone. Sooo many appointments too 😩

I think I'm just struggling with how to word it/ or if I should put it it in an email too.

@Starlightstarbright1 the job isn't high risk but it's how we work in small teams to get projects done that concerns me.

Luckily I've managed to get though the really back sickness phase, I also had really bad flu though it so was off on the worst week

I'm really struggling with how I will tell then and also I am considered high risk so have a few extra appointments. I just really don't want to let everyone down as we are really getting into the swing of things but I do know pregnancy is a part of life

With my first child I told at 8 weeks because of the environment I worked in. This time round different workplace I informed my line manager at 13 weeks, again although a safer environment than previous there's elements of risk. Also the sooner you tell your employer your protected by law

@Manifest828 okay thank you, I think I'll tell my boss shortly after my probation meeting, he recently asked me if something is up and I can speak to him whenever

Keep probation and pregnancy seperate.

Once you have passed your probabtion, work out what you need to share. You should have an idea of the frequency and timing of appointments and you can talk about your intentions regarding leave and returning to work if they are likely to be reassuring to your employers.

Think through your concerns about the teams and projects you are on now and how that will likely be impacted by your pregnancy and also think about your maternity replacement. These will all be things your management team will need to consider but if you are proactive and have ideas to share, it may well be to your benefit.

@ChateauMargaux I will certainly keep them separate. My plan it to be very clear with them that I would like to be involved through my pregnancy and after, very much what you've said sums things up. Hopefully I can come back with and update of a good outcome