Starting new job, anxious wreck?

[Clarebear81]

So it’s been a rough start to the year. January got notice we were all getting made redundant due to employer retiring. I’d worked for this company 10 years, it was a small firm, we were more like a family than anything, we’d gone through marriages, deaths, births, the pandemic together. I loved the job and my colleagues.

So I had no issue getting a new job, in fact got offered 3, I made my choice and leave this week. I’m the first to leave. I’m someone who has had issues with anxiety and panic attacks in the past and well they’ve raised their ugly head again.

This week I have to say goodbye to all my coworkers, I’m dreading that for a start, I feel like I’ll be an emotional mess and make a fool of myself. Then there’s the new job, it’s much larger, I don’t know anyone, it’s a totally different job meaning I’ve no experience so I’ve no confidence in my abilities, I’m also a shy person so will struggle to make friends.

At the moment I’ve a pretty constant sense of dread and fear over it all, it’s even waking me at night, hence why I’m posting this at 5.15 on a Sunday morning.

Anyone else gone through this? It all just feels kinda terrifying, sure I’ve switched jobs in the past but that’s been on my terms, I wanted to do it either because the job was crap or whatever, this is different and I don’t remember feeling anxious about it.

It's always daunting to move after a long time, it's only natural to feel nervous about it.

I wonder if it's the two situations kind of running into each other - leaving a workplace you don't want to leave combined with starting somewhere new kind of against your will if you see wha I mean.

If you've have issues before with anxiety, did you have treatment and do you have a toolkit of ways to cope/mitigate it? If so this is the time to dig those out again and use them.

Yeah, it’s probably the two things you’re right. My tool kit? Hmm I kinda fixed myself with self help, yeah time to revisit what I did I guess

Sorry to hear about your time.
Different situation but I left a job at the end of last year that wasn’t right for me, made me feel physically ill, full of stress and anxiety was rearing it’s ugly head again in a way I haven’t felt in several years.
min January I started a new job and I’m now 2 months in and feel so much happier, less stressed and haven’t felt any of the ‘feelings’ since.
but having said that before I started this role I felt immense pressure to start somewhere new, meet new people, learn new things etc and the anxious feelings about if I’ll be good enough were very apparent.
try to stay calm and believe in yourself, you can do this and you’ll fit right in with your new job and colleagues - they offered you the role because they believe in you and your abilities. Good luck! And congrats on the new role.

Well guys, I left my old job but my new employer doesn’t need me until Monday so have a few days off. No one told me how emotional and embarrassing saying my goodbyes would be, I’m not a cryer usually but the lip trembled and the tears started, I felt so embarrassed, my coworkers were supportive but I’ve beat myself up about it since. It was definitely the hardest thing I’ve had to do, it was like losing a relative. Thank god my new employer doesn’t need me until Monday as my heads all over the place after leaving.

I have been through this recently. My company has announced administrator will be in next week, everyone lose the job.

I have been with company 7 years, I love my current job, it's family culture, everyone is nice, lovely. However due to mismanagement, we are ending in this way..It's very sad.

I just started job hunting from last week, so worried whether I can get another job, or get settled in new environment. It's just very scary to think so many uncertainties ahead..

@rabbitcarrot The job market at least around here is pretty decent at the moment so you shouldn’t have a lot of difficulty getting something at least for now until something better comes along. I would say this has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, that last day saying my goodbyes I didn’t think it would be that hard, I was on the verge of tears and couldn’t wait to get to the car. Thankfully my new employer didn’t need me to start until this Monday so have had a few days to pull myself together again. But yeah, it felt like I lost a relative or something so just be prepared for that as it caught me off guard. it’s a scary time sure but I mean all my colleagues like myself have all got new jobs lined up also so there’s never been a better time for this to happen, it’s an employees market