Will they accept my apology?

[Kiki29]

Hi

so last month I was offered another job i really wanted the job but unfortunately a couple of weeks after accepting I lost 2 aunties in the space of 4 days to each other and it completely broke me, it’s only the past couple of weeks I’ve been feeling myself again

I was going to phone the employer tomorrow to firstly apologise and reapply as the position is still there. I’ve worked along side this company before so I’m hoping they understand not getting back to them was out of character

should I call , Even if I got to apologise and thank them for the opportunity I think I would feel better. The shock of losing 2 aunts made me shut down and unfortunately shut the world out too but I feel really bad about it.

Did you accept and then just ignore them? I don't mean that in a nasty way, just asking

Hi yes I accepted sent all my documents ect in then everything happened and I shut off

I think you have nothing to lose by getting in touch. Worse case scenario, they say thank you but we don't want you/job has been offered to someone else. At least they know why you disappeared. No harm done and they may consider you for future roles. Best case they still offer you the job. At least you will know and have some closure one way or another.
And I'm sorry for your losses

So you ghosted them? I get you were in pain but in that case it's very unprofessional and they're unlikely to forgive and forget.

Hi Op
100 per cent yes do this just explain to potential employer what you have said here,

You must have been good enough to been offered this job,

Go for it,

I think you be susprised how understanding they will be,

Anybody in you situation would have struggled emotionally to think straight after experincing bereavements like this recently,

You have really been having a really tough time lately,
Take care of yourself
Best of Luck I am sure you will get this job Op

Thank you. I honestly didn’t mean to ignore the offer but at the time my dad who is elderly lost 2 sister in a short space of time and he was struggling and I was too for some reason I completely shut down something I have never done before and completely unprofessional but so much was happening. It was completely out of character for me and even if I get to apologise and thank them

2-4 weeks has passed? Could someone have emails on your behalf? How did they contact you? Phone, email post? Nothing to lose if you try.

It’s worth trying to contact them.
I would really respect someone who made the effort to get back in contact and explain the situation. Even if they don’t continue with offering you the job at least you would have smoothed over the situation in case of future opportunities.

I’ve lost sleep the past few nights over the situation as I feel so guilty. I’d be completely understanding if they were not to consider me again but i definitely would like to apologise and thank them

Well that’s a reason to do it them. Rather than keep worrying and feeling bad. Be proactive. I think it would be really brave of you and would mean that if you see them again there would be no bad feeling hopefully.

Do it.

At least that way you’ll never have the what if.

Personally I’d hope that HR would be sympathetic esp if they’ve had decent references for you.

sounds tough.

Thank you. The lady I was dealing with was lovely and if anything just for being nice she deserves and explanation and apology.