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should I stay or should I go?

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cherryblossomwoman · 27/02/2023 11:53

Hi All,

In need of a bit of advise re: work opportunity.

Basically I am in full time employment, I love my team and really happy where I am now mainly because of my amazing boss who is incredibly supportive. The work environment can be harsh sometimes due to the nature of the work but because of my amazing line manager I haven't really felt it as he is very good in standing up for his team and making sure everyone is treated fairly. My team is a very strong team of experts and I often rely on their support as I am still somewhat inexperienced in the field. Of course I also really enjoy the actual day-to-day work.

However, the company itself isn't great, and the pay is far from fantastic. Very few opportunities for promotions too. Now, I have been offered another job in a very similar role, but with a much better package. In that company I'd have far fewer people who are experts in my area so I would be somewhat on my own trying to resolve complex problems.

At first I was happy to have received this offer but now I am just so reluctant to leave. I feel that I'd be on my own out there, I have been massively bullied before in another job and I think the memories of that time come back when I start thinking of joining a new work environment - what if they are not friendly/nasty/jealous/power-struggle riddled etc? I have no reason to suspect this as at the interview they were nice enough, but you just never know how it really is inside a company until you join.

What should I do?
a) Stay in my safe little job, just doing my day-to-day tasks, not worrying about pay rises, promotions and professional growth - it can wait, and mental health at work is more important.

b) Take the leap into the unknown, with the potential benefit of much better pay and promotion opportunities and the potential risk of stressful work environment and being vulnerable.

Thanks in advance for all your thoughts.

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cherryblossomwoman · 27/02/2023 13:26

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DarkChocHolic · 27/02/2023 13:57

Hello OP,
You could ask for another chat with the new hiring manager and see if that helps
I appreciate its not easy to get a full picture from a brief chat and of course they will say all the right things.
Is there anyone you know who works for the company?
Have you checked reviews on glass door for an idea?
Does the company have a LinkedIn presence and see what their posts ate like.
See if they have any employee welfare initiatives.
My company do many things like webinars and health initiatives for physical and mental health.
Ask about their women friendly policies.. not necessarily child care related.
See if their board has women on it and what percentage.
Do they offer hybrid working if its important to you?
See what is important to you in terms of career and personal life, make a list and see if the new place has any provision for those.
For example, to me the important things are hybrid working, flexible starts and finishes, flexible for occasional appointments during the day like GP, school for which I should have to take the day off, benefits.
Work wise I would about the day to day role, career progression, options to roles within the company etc.

Good luck. I am in a similar position and bricking it.

cherryblossomwoman · 27/02/2023 20:18

Thank you @DarkChocHolic and good luck!

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