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Leaving job for major life reasons

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bctf123 · 22/02/2023 21:00

I've been in my job about 5 years.

It's had ups and downs but the only place I've ever lasted(beem working 13 years). The job is pretty much recession proof and redundancy proof and most managers are good. Pressure is minimal
I'm feeling though that my personal life isn't going right. I need to take time out and take a breather.
Management have always told me how valuable I am and indispensable but I feel like I am taken for granted increasingly and the fizz has gone. I am plodding along working to a basic standard. I'm also becoming cosy and complacent as I have complete freedom to do nothing most of the time as the little things I do bring in a lot of revenue. I help most people in the team. I do a lot of coordination and I do around 75% of my supervisor's day to day job ( she is wfh) and have to hand hold new teammates a lot as she is at home

Is it time to go?

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TheWitchwithNoName · 22/02/2023 21:11

Does your company have a sabbatical policy? You could take 3-6 months out and then see how you feel.

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bctf123 · 23/02/2023 08:01

It does but I need to wait a year to apply and frankly I think the writing is on the wall. I can't wait that long even though it's the longest spell of financial stability I've ever had

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watchfulwishes · 23/02/2023 08:05

Move teams internally rather than leave if the organisation is good.

watchfulwishes · 23/02/2023 08:07

I can't understand why you feel it is urgent to leave when you are not under pressure in your role? Tread water for a bit, read up on quiet quitting and move when you get a good offer.

Nimbostratus100 · 23/02/2023 08:09

if you are struggling in your personal life, I would think a stable low pressure job is something to hang on to!

Or if you are really unhappy at work, then look for something else, but dont leave without a new job to go to

mumyes · 23/02/2023 08:11

I should ask for a sabbatical now, and make it clear you need some time off. I.e. without outright threatening, make it clear that you'll go if no sabbatical.

You'd be amazed what's possible if they want to keep you.

You've got nothing to lose.

Whataretheodds · 23/02/2023 08:11

if you are struggling in your personal life, I would think a stable low pressure job is something to hang on to!

Exactly this. Can you talk to your manager about the possibility of reducing your hours temporarily and give yourself a day a week to do something that inspires you? Not Friday as you'll be tired from the week at work.

YukoandHiro · 23/02/2023 08:12

Hard to say without the context of what's going on in your personal life OP...

If you've got enough savings to stay comfortably afloat for a couple of years without working and you need the break I'd say go for it. If there's any financial pressure at all, no way. Bills are still rising inexorably and you could suddenly find yourself in a very bad spot if you can't find a new job.

Margo34 · 23/02/2023 08:13

It's sounds like your current role is probably easy for you and you're coasting, so I'm not sure whether moving to a completely new work place or different role at this point would give you the breathing space you say your need for your personal life unless you can afford to not work?

On the otherhand, maybe you're bored of your current role and a new role will be refreshing for you. What is the progression like in your current role? Any additional qualifications you can go for in your current role?

Are there any other opportunities or areas within the company that interest you? A secondment, perhaps?

You'll know it's time to go when there are better opportunities elsewhere or when you are very unhappy in your current role.

Letitbebread · 23/02/2023 08:15

I wouldn’t leave without a plan. It’s better to be in an unsatisfying job than looking for one.

WeAreTheHeroes · 23/02/2023 08:21

I left a relatively unstressful job because I didn't feel challenged. The job I'm in has been very different in a lot of ways, but I wish it wasn't so stressful. I earn a lot more money which means we have been able to move to a beautiful place and I also now have a professional qualification. I miss the camaraderie my old job had though I have good relationships with many colleagues. Be careful what you wish for.

growinggreyer · 23/02/2023 08:32

It sounds like you are self-sabotaging. Can you arrange for some counselling? You need to explore why you want to blow up your life. Don't do anything yet, take some time to think through what will be the consequences.

RiceCooker · 24/02/2023 17:09

Can you take a holiday or a long weekend away ?

If necessary take some sick leave

Start looking for jobs & applying

I've heard that it's easier to find work, when you are already employed

RiceCooker · 24/02/2023 18:17

If you leave your job, do you have lots of savings ?

Squiblet · 24/02/2023 20:49

A minimal- pressure job with lots of freedom to do absolutely nothing - OP, you've won the employment lottery ... Are you sure you haven't forgotten how stressful it is to start a new job?

You might consider first changing other areas of your life in hope of finding fulfilment there. Could you find a project that could fill in the gaps between your bouts of real work? Write a book, learn the guitar, take up Japanese?

whatisforteamum · 01/03/2023 15:55

A couple of weeks off sick to see the wood for the trees regarding personal life.
I agree giving up a job could be self sabotaging.

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