Looking for Advice

[Babs21]

I recently returned to full time employment after 20 years of part time work.

I found a job working with local government a few months ago and so far the department has been great but the work was not what I expected and I find it boring.

I feel so unhappy but I’m not sure if I’m really giving it a fair chance and it’s more that I’m just struggling with returning to full time employment.

I am still looking at jobs and have had two interviews this week one for the civil service and the other NHS. The problem is it’s so hard to judge a job from a generic interview and I’m so confused as to what I want right now.

Should I give this job a chance and enjoy the fact it’s relatively stress free?

If anyone has experienced anything similar I would love your advice.

Hello there,

I have been in pretty much the same situation as you so I can completely empathise. What kind of job role are you doing? As to whether you should give it a chance really depends on lots of other factors really. If you would prefer not to disclose here do PM. Lots of empathy and support here ❤️

Thanks for replying I am currently an administrator but finding this new role more data input very repetitive. There are many perks WFH, relaxed management and they have been really supportive. However I was probably a bit foolish and didn’t realise how hard it would be returning to full time hours!

How did you cope if you don’t mind me asking?

♥️

No problem at all 😀do you have any childcare commitments to consider or finances? I think that is what would get me through. There has to be some sort of benefit to doing this job as it sounds like it's something you're not particularly enjoying. Would the perks outweigh it all?

I personally found moving from 3 days to 5 days even with part time hours a struggle especially when it comes to childcare. However, the benefits outweigh me working in a 3 day role...in some shape or form especially now my DC is older.

No childcare commitments thankfully my two are at high school so no issues. Financially all jobs are similar salary so not much gain either way. Sadly I wouldn’t say any of the positions are my dream job I am just trying to settle into something long term that offers some perks!

Maybe giving this job some I’ll begin to adjust to full time hours but it’s not easy juggling everything is it though.

I’m glad you have found a balance and hope I get that too thanks for your reply 👍💜

You probably feel like this cause the job is boring and you have no real responsibility

you might feel very different for a job and even yourself for something trickier where hours pass by much quicker and you feel proper achievement

it’s very very hard to understand beforehand what a job will be like sadly; you can only truly control yourself and what makes you truly happy in a job

good luck

Absolutely agree and that’s the hardest thing when you accept a job it’s not always what you expect. I like to be challenged and in control and that’s very much what I’m missing at the moment. I will seriously consider my options if I do get offered any of the other positions.

thanks for your advice 😊

I can completely empathise @Babs21 as I'm in the same situation (I've pm'd you by the way...several times...as it kept on sending before I could finish my message. Apologies!

You're right, you never know what a job is going to be like until you start so please don't blame.yourself for this. Are you looking for other work at the moment? x

Go for something harder, might be tricky, you might have to deal with idiots , you might get challenged…. But I guarantee you ll nail it 😎

NotLovingBrocolli thank you your advice I think a challenge might be exactly what I need at this stage in my life!

Anewdance Thank you I have pm’d you. I am still Looking keeping my options opened at the moment x

Hello Ladies, I’m looking for some advice please 🙏🏼 it has been a tough year. I lost a baby at 25 weeks in January 😞 I was preparing myself for full time Mum life with 2 under 3. This has changed and so I have been job hunting. It has been hard: it is tough out there I have found. I now have 2 job offers and would like advice on which to take in your respective point of views:

1. Global Wellness Lead for a London based business. £60k plus great benefits and 2 days in office Canary Wharf, 3 days at home. Lots of career progression, CPD, work from home, London experience days / however 25 days annual leave so a question mark around school holiday care and the days in London will be long so I souri need extra childcare for after nursery for my 2.5 year old. Also the work load will be high.
2. Trainee Teacher locally to me at an independent school. £30k plus they cover the PGCE cost, 50% fees, guarantee of pay increase to £41k on qualifying and genuine opportunities to take on more responsibility for increase in pay. School holidays align obviously. Draw back to teaching as I see it is: pay will be limited to a point, must be at school 0800-1630 5 days a week, no work from home options, same place, same routine however very family friendly.

any advice? I am married with a husband who is the bread winner and is away sometimes during the week. I am another person on here who has a truly awful family / Mum& Dad so no family support sadly.

thank you so much ❤️

@MammaD1 I'm so sorry for your loss!

Generally the advice on Mumsnet is to start your own thread as you will get more replies.

How do I do that?!’

I’ve done it! Thanks x