Help, I'm being bullied at work !!!

[mummyloveslucy]

I'm not sure what to do, I work nights and the other night staff are really clicky. They dob me in all the time for the silliest things. I heard them talking about me recently discussing how to get me the sack. It's such a long night when they don't talk to you. I have an interview tommorrow for another job. I feel as if, if I leave they've won. But I really can't stay there as it's making me depresed and snappy with my dd and I'm just loosing my confidence. What should I do??
If I tell the boss whats been going on then it will hit the fan as she is really good and caring. The point is I can't work with those people after that.

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sorry to hear you are having a rough time. A piece of advice I often give people in difficult work situations is

-work out what the best outcome would be for you. Not for the company, not what's 'right', but what's the best outcome that could come of this situation.

-work out how to get there as quickly as possible with as little impact on your life as possible.

It sounds as though the best outcome for you would be not to work there anymore. In which case, you shouldn't consider that they've 'won', you should consider that you have had the self-awareness and maturity to have identified how you can make this situation better, and have gone out and done something positive about it. Try to think of it like that, as a positive decision. Focus on getting this new job, which will be a big boost to your confidence and will improve how you are at home as well.

Good luck tomorrow.

How unpleasant for you and very stressful. If I were you I would record any incidences, conversations you over hear about them wanting to sack you, etc and then speak to your boss. I suppose in reality this should be weighed up with what you hope to be the outcome. For example could you change shifts so you work with other people. Also look for a new job. They are in the wrong not you.

Oh darling this is a totally rubbish situation
Good luck with the interview - I really do hope you get it
They won't have won - you will. Life's too short to be worried about these people
Leave them to it. Leave and be happy

Love to you

Sounds bloody awful. I would make sure that as soon as you know you have the other job, you tell your boss what's been happening and why you're leaving. How utterly grim for you Fingers crossed for your interview.

I feel like I'm in a bit of a similar situation, I have tried sticking through it but it has got too much and so I have decided to give in and change jobs
Yes they have got the satisfaction of me leaving (but I haven't been sacked) and I will (hopefully) be happier in my new position and being able to spend more time with my children as the new job is part time.
Good luck with your interview and keep out of their way!

Thanks everyone. You are right The best outcome would be either for all of them to leave or me. The job I'm going for is better as it's more flexable and nicer people.
I only do 2 nights a week but it feels like full time as when I'm not there I'm worrying about it anyway. When it starts to effect my home life I think it's time to call it a day! Should I let them know why I'm leaving?. I don't want to give the real reason in my interview tommorrow, as they might think I can't get on with people. I'll just say I wanted somthing more flexable.

Don't say that, they'll think you won't turn up
Say something like
It's a better company
It's a good opportunity
It's time for a change

You get the idea -
Good luck babe

I was lucky that I was able to use the shorter hours as the reason. Previously I have said that I wanted a new challenge or to be able to progress as a reason

I do feel as if it's very unfair though as it is ver good money for this area and they all sleep through the night. They don't so much when on with me for obvious reasons. But one of them told the manager I sleep and I got a warning. They moan about the residents saying none of them talk. And one of them said in front of one yound girl with autism that she thought her new hair cut was awfull. I saw the look on the girls face and felt so . I said to her "I love it, it's really nice". That didn't go down well but I don't care. To me people like that should not work in care.
I treat every young person as if they were a member of my family. I know how hard it must be for the parents to have to entrust us with their children.