Hi everyone,
I’m in a real dilemma. I’m Dutch and have been offered my dream job (diplomat) at home in Holland. My boyfriend and I currently have an eight-month old son. As my boyfriend can’t move with us due to his job (completely impossible, however, he can visit quite a bit over the winter months), we have to make the decision of whether to go or stay here. I do have a job here but not one I’d like to return to after the end of mat leave. My boyfriend does support me in taking this job as he knows it’s my dream but whenever I start swaying in that direction; he also says it won’t work and that he’ll miss our son too much. I feel bad for perhaps splitting up the family between two countries but equally also need to have a career Im happy with. Also because my boyfriend and I haven’t always been that stable, and should we break up, I feel like his idea - that I work in a random job part time - will work out very badly for me. Obviously moving is a big step and settling back in Holland - getting a flat, getting our son into daycare etc - would all be on me. It also makes me worried we won’t have more children.
Ive gone over it so many times in my head, with my partner and with friends and feeling so very confused. Any thoughts would be very appreciated