Job causes me such stress and anxiety
greyfox82 · 02/02/2023 18:28
I have always enjoyed my career, it's been creative and fun and the right amount of pressure. However, after a redundancy a few years ago I took on a 'new' job as it was there in the moment and I've now been there for 7 years. The positives is they are fairly flexible, but the amount of pressure and stress that has always been put on the individual is insane for the money I earn (£40k if anyone is asking). Two weeks ago I had covid and felt awful, I couldn't take any sick leave because there is literally nobody else to do my job and it would have meant deadlines were missed. I'm so anxious about things going wrong, as my team is so small (essentially myself) and even taking holidays means you have to pull forward all the work, which again adds more pressure. On top of this I am a single mother to a three year old, so that adds extra pressure.
I'm not really sure of this post. But has anybody been in a similar situation and left and have any positive stories to share? There are aspects of my job I enjoy, but the stress and pressure of the bad bit always out weighs those. I am seriously considering handing in my notice and getting a retail job for less money but less stress and better for my mental health!
Soccermumamir · 02/02/2023 20:01
This is exactly how I feel now. Some days the job is great and I love who I work with, but it's so stressful. I can't turn off at the moment.
Hoping someone has some words of wisdom to share.
lmnabc · 02/02/2023 20:06
OP I'm in the same situation. The stress of my job has given me constant headaches which I've now found out is likely to be due to high blood pressure which I've never had before the 3 years I've been in my job.
I'm in my own and older so jobs aren't 2 a penny and I need to pay the bills.
It's a major dilemma: health or livelihood. I know what I should choose but I'm tough on myself and a hard worker.
makingarunforit · 02/02/2023 20:20
I feel like this now.
Looking for an exit plan because it's not sustainable.
greyfox82 · 02/02/2023 23:20
Sounds like we are all in the same boat. And we all want to leave but are too reluctant. Maybe we all n d to take a leap of faith... could you all take something less stressful (such as retail/admin work) or is there not much about
SecretVictoria · 03/02/2023 14:07
Retail isn’t always less stressful, you get hassle from customers, managers, just about everyone. It’s also poorly paid and lots of places want you to work overnights and weekends, as that is when they have deliveries or are busiest. Often no shift allowance for unsociable hours either.
I know how you feel; I’m due back next week after some sick days, I really want to drop to 4 days which would help me but it’s just not possible in my job.
Reluctantadult · 03/02/2023 14:16
Is it stress or pressure? We had a talk about this at work not long ago. I think my job is more pressure than stress, which is mainly caused by not having enough staff and brains, so low levels of resilience.
I had a home issue last year - fil had heart attack at home, I got there, had to give ambulance crew permission to stop cpr and tell mil, sil and dh he had gone. My mgr denied me any leave. I even worked mothers day so I could go to the funeral the next day. My manager has since apologised. I think mgr just simply did not know who else would do my work. There isn't anyone. That said, my work is hardly life or death.
Soccermumamir · 03/02/2023 16:10
I've spoke to my manager today about one of the main stresses as part of my job and she's gonna sort something out. I have a really lovely manager though which helps.
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