Hating work

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What do I do in a job where my manager is generally unsupportive of me? I genuinely do go over and above in my role, I have received good feedback from others including other managers. Some have emailed my manager with good feedback including award voucher recommendations - but my manager ignores this. Starting to feel like nothing I do will be good enough.

EG I have done something incredible but her way of recognising my effort is giving me more work to do and applying unrealistic standards to me and not the rest of her team.

I had this exact experience... and I left. Utterly toxic boss who would never give positive feedback, always wanted me to do more (she actually told me she gave me more work than everyone else because she knew I would get it done), and just made me feel awful. I don't regret leaving at all, and the person who replaced me reports all the same issues. Some people are just awful awful managers. Good luck.

Thanks for sharing. Did the experience impact your self esteem? I just feel unappreciated and like there’s nothing here for me. Applied for a few roles over the weekend so hopefully will escape soon🙂

I changed job within the company. It was interesting to see targets going unmet.

@Whotsit that’s what I’ve been trying to do but unfortunately all my internal applications have to go through her! Otherwise I can apply as an external candidate online.

Yes, it absolutely impacted my self esteem, and it took me a while to get over it. Even in my new job I found myself doubting myself because she'd ground me down. It was horrible. I'm ok now, but sadly it did take a while to get my confidence back.

Oh no! I’m sorry you went through that @Geilenk

I’m going to take a fake it until you make it approach and try not to let this carry me over to my new job. I’m glad you managed to bounce back.

Managers like this cant actually do the work . They are just very good at delegating and blaming others when things go wrong . In other words they talk a good job and are good at looking busy . They usually crash and burn at some point , usually when people they rely on on leave and are not replaced.

You will never get credit from her. It's good you are leaving.

I'm feeling your pain.
My boss moved to our team 18 months ago and basically caused me to have imposter syndrome.
I've been in my industry for nearly 30 yrs, along he comes and completely knocks me off kilter.
He's got a funny way about him, the way he talks to people, he's argumentative, basically not a people person.
I have a line manager but the "boss" overrides him, I constantly receive "outstanding" in my 121's with my line manager but the boss comes along and knocks me back down.
I'm older than him, have more experience, I'm just trying to make it to retirement (mid 50s female) it's like he wants to put me in my place.
Part of my role is to keep the team on track with projects, reports etc and the boss has named me "the boss" actually introduces me to people as the "the boss" it's passive aggressive as fuck.
I'm trapped due to my age, skill set and pension, if you're not trapped then look for another job, trust me it's not worth being miserable at work, I'm sat here dreading the start of the day.
Get out while you can, it won't get better

Hi OP, I can relate to this…unfortunately. My Manager is dreadful and I struggle with her so much. I keep on looking for a new job but realise it will take some time.
Definitely get out…I know I will eventually!