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Anewdance · 24/12/2022 11:03

Can anyone advise please . I've been an nhs HCA for 20 years in different wards and departments. Loved it till beginning of this year as it was affecting my mental health (poorly manged ward) and decided to take a risk and jump into private healthcare as a HCA but still stayed on hospital bank.I knew within 1 week of being in this job it was not for me but pressed on despite everyone being very kind there. I worked FT and then reduced my hours there so I could take on my shifts with the nurse bank and slowly build back up my confidence and skills in the nhs. New dilemma is I've been offered a new HCA role in the hospital. Yes it's a risk to take but really not enjoying private healthcare but I know they are going to be cross as I've already reduced hours with them and now to tell them I'm leaving. New job is nearer home as I currently commute 45 mins one way, better holiday, better prospects, better pay but downside is I will be upsetting my current employer and taking another risk and starting all over again in a new job. Fully know the effect being in a bad job can have so I'm scared of taking another leap of faith. What would you do? would it look to my new employer as though I have used them? I am a very honest woman with grown up children, DH and a grandchild and they know how unhappy I am who think I should take the new job but it would be good to get some outside perspective please.Thanks

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Hoppinggreen · 24/12/2022 11:08

Of course you should take the new job.
Leave your existing job on as good terms as possible but do you really think they would be getting as angsty as this if they were having to let you go?

Relocatiorelocation · 24/12/2022 11:08

Have you done bank on the ward you're going to, do you like it?

FictionalCharacter · 24/12/2022 11:10

Just take the new job. People leave jobs all the time, employers are used to dealing with it.

Campervangirl · 24/12/2022 11:12

My old boss used to say "you work to live not live to work"
If you're unhappy you need to leave, they might be upset with you but they'll get over it, you've not used them, it's just not a good fit.
Take the other job, you have a lot of experience so if this job doesn't work out you need to move on again, I'll bet you'll be snapped up again in no time.
Life's too short to be unhappy.
Good luck, new year new start!

taurussally · 24/12/2022 11:13

You need to prioritise yourself. You are just a number to them and noone can't be replaced. Take the new job and don't look back.

bloodywhitecat · 24/12/2022 11:21

You don't owe your employer your health and happiness, you work to live and your work has to work for you. Take the new job and good luck!

Soproudoflionesses · 24/12/2022 12:15

Honestly when we take on new staff we half expect them to leave in the first month, as they were probably looking for other jobs before we employed them. Bonus if they stay!

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Anewdance · 24/12/2022 12:55

Relocatiorelocation · 24/12/2022 11:08

Have you done bank on the ward you're going to, do you like it?

No, I haven't. It's a community ward so a wee bit different to what I am used to. Like anything a lot of it boils down to management etc. and a big leap of faith.

Thanks for all your replies. I know you are all right. Unfortunately my current employer has had the majority of his employees stay for 10 years plus so I this there is an underlying expectation perhaps. I've a blemish free work history and have been in my workplaces generally speaking a long time..just not this one. Just hoping this was a blip and these short term jobs are not what is ahead for me as I think I'll be very unwell if this is what is to come. The older I get the more I hate change, new job positions and the unexpected oh and job interviews!!

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tribpot · 24/12/2022 13:00

It sounds as if your current employer has tried to make adjustments to support you, like reducing your hours, and that's why you're worried about upsetting him by moving on so quickly. I would stress that you're grateful for his support but for personal reasons it suits you to work nearer to home and this opportunity came up unexpectedly.

Ultimately employees come and go for all sorts of reasons. This wasn't the right fit for you, and presumably he wants employees for whom it is the right fit, as these are the ones who will stick around for 10 years plus.

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Anewdance · 24/12/2022 15:33

tribpot · 24/12/2022 13:00

It sounds as if your current employer has tried to make adjustments to support you, like reducing your hours, and that's why you're worried about upsetting him by moving on so quickly. I would stress that you're grateful for his support but for personal reasons it suits you to work nearer to home and this opportunity came up unexpectedly.

Ultimately employees come and go for all sorts of reasons. This wasn't the right fit for you, and presumably he wants employees for whom it is the right fit, as these are the ones who will stick around for 10 years plus.

Of course.He has been very good to me and so have the organisation and I usually stay where I am in jobs for many years but I am afraid not this time. I feel very guilty and disloyal also very afraid that may next move may be a wrong one but at least I have the scope to move about more if so.Thank you. Merry Christmas

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