Worried about new ....

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I know it's normal to be nervous about starting a new job but to add more pressure my partner has just been made redundant. He will finish up in the middle of Jan so so I feel insurmountable pressure to make sure I like this job that I'm taking. It's completely different to what I've done in the past and it's full time (I only work pt atm) I really worried that I'll hate it and regret it, both the work and the full time hrs. I really can't pull out as we need the money. ( my new job is double what Im taking home atm and better perks) I really want to love it but I almost feel sick at the thought.

Has any one else been worried they'd hate a new job and ended up loving it?

Realistically, you're not going to be "loving" any new job from day one - there will be an adjustment period while you learn the lay of the land and become familiar with the organisation, the people, the processes, the shift in lifestyle.

Harness your nerves to fuel you through the settling in period. Being comfortable and happy there will come in time - don't put so much extra pressure on yourself, it won't help.

I was so scared when I started my new job. I thought I've made a mistake, no one will like me and I won't be able to do the job, completely different company and sector and I'll hate it. Two weeks in I had a massive crisis in my confidence, I started doubting myself, cried on the way in, thought no one liked me and felt so alone. Even my boss noticed something was up(he is a pretty special boss I have come to realise).

Two months there now and I love my job, my colleagues are lovely, my boss is amazing and I have some friendships building nicely. The boss and I have a great working relationship, a proper double act at times (I'm his PA). I look back at my first couple of weeks and the doubts I had and think what was I worried about.

Worry and doubts are only natural and for a while you may feel overwhelmed but once you settle in you'll wonder what you had to worry about.

Thanks so much for replying to me. I know starting new jobs are horrible and I'd love to fast forward time until I felt settled. I think my partner's situation is making it worse because I feel I need to like it so I can't help but out that extra pressure on myself. I'm trying to keep telling myself that everyone starts new jobs feeling a bit uncertain and nervous but it has to get better in time x

Try to separate the two issues, you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself

Does it help to tell yourself that if you really hate it once you've given it a few months, there's absolutely nothing stopping you from getting another job?

Actually, look at it from the point of view that leaving a job a job you've only been in for a few months is much easier than leaving a job you've been in for years. You've not really built up relationships or knowledge and you're not in your comfort zone.