Me again

[Beauregard]

I went for an interview on wednesday which was very easy and relaxed .
Tbh it is not my 1st choice of job but i went with the idea that if i had not found employment before i am made redundant then it could be a stop gap option,you know "Keep me on the books" type thing.
When the interviewer asked about my employers notice period i explained that as i am facing redundancy i am unable to commit to anything but told her that i am applying for various jobs so that i have something by the time redundancy kicks in.
Anyway she said they would get back to me when my CRB is returned but more or less said she was pleased with the way the interview went.
She said that maybe i could get updated/training with them before my redundancy and then be free etc to persue the job if i wanted.

She called today to invite me to the orientation session next week and a manual handling update a few days later.

My question is if i go will they think i am stringing them along?

God why oh why do i get myself in such a pickle?

Think you have to be selfish here TBH. If there is still a possibility you will want / need the job you should go. You have not lied to them. I understand it is a stressful situation but unless you have got some definite other plan you should not burn your bridges yet.

The money isn't great either tbh but i am just exploring all avenues .

I am trying to be selfish but i just don't want to 'dig' myself any deeper.

I don't like any form of confrontation and wouldn't know what to say in order to refuse.

anymore views?

Agree with B1977. You've been entirely honest with them and they've still asked you to go. What do these sessions entail? You won't have to commit to anything I take it?

When it comes to it you just say "sorry I have found something else" or "sorry I have decided to be SAHM (or whatever)" or "sorry I need to earn X (if you want to ask for a rise)".

Anyway, you might still like the job if the pay was better. If it is a private enterprise it might be easier to ask for more money than you think, if they like you they might want to save the cost of looking much further.

If you find the idea of turning them down hard you can phrase it to blame someone else eg "sorry [new employer] has offered me a better job and I am going to take it", or "sorry my partner and I have decided it is best if I stay at home with the kids for a while". Somehow that can be easier.
Practice what you want to say in front of a mirror if you have to.

This is not a confrontation, you are just being straight. Noone is going to shout at you and say you are taking the piss. You are not breaking up a relationship. This is just something that is a normal part of the recruitment process.

Once you have dealt with this situation once it becomes a lot easier, I promise.

Thanks for replying

The orientation session will be learning about the company and what they expect from their staff.

The training update will be just that.

5 hours in total over 2 days.

It depends on at what point or in which way 'they' discuss a date.

I am really bad at refusing people though.

ah ok, I'd still go though - then at least you've kept your options open. You haven't promised to commit to anything, and they know your position. If you do the session, it might help decide whether it's the kind of place for you.