Work Christmas Party Shame

[GoosieLucy]

I had my work Christmas party at the weekend and drank way too much. I then did probably the worst thing possible and ended up getting it on with my boss. I don’t know how to handle it and not sure I can face him so I’m considering handing in my notice and leaving the the country.
Please make me feel better and share your work party stories/scandals!

Your not the first or the last to do that.
Brazen it out and it'll soon be old news.

I snogged an almost married 30 year old manager when I was 17.

Looking back that's way weirder than it felt at the time.

@OnTheRunWithMannyMontana So glad I’m not alone! Thanks for sharing. I keep forgetting about it then am suddenly hit with a wave of shame remembering. I just want to hide.

You just have to brazen it out. Walk in with your head held high, shut down any questions if anyone dares to mention it and just behave like you don't give a shit 😂

He will be feeling the same. Dont worry its happening everywhere right now. Life goes on. X

I worked at a place where it was a well known fact that a female member lf staff had got so completely slaughtered on a Xmas do that she stripped to underwear and heels and writhed around on a pool table.

The CEO of the company had to wrap her up in his coat and drive her home.

She still works there now. So if she can do it then you bloody well can! 😂

One of my colleagues got wrecked on the free wine at a work Christmas do (Big 4 accounting firm, formal black tie sit down event with partners…sadly I was at a different table and could not restrain her). When the disco started she climbed up on top of a speaker and raved enthusiastically for around half an hour before climbing down and jumping into the lap of one of the partners, who was there with his wife. She attempted to snog the partner whilst his wife sat next to him. She worked there for another five years. Drinking too much and getting off with your boss is nothing compared to that!

I have a vague memory of being drunk one Christmas parry when I was 19. Me, my boss and my colleague all chatting together. Colleague pipes up "You're a real sex on Sunday person aren't you".

Him: I don't know what to say to that
Her: Well, you come across like the sort of man who only has sex once a week. Really boring.
Me: hysterical in laughter.

Her mortified for a month after. He did speak to her again and actually lightened up quite a lot as a result.

Erm, first proper office job when I was 19. The boss was a bit handsy (I was taken aside by one of the female partners on my first day and warned not to close the door behind me if I went in his office 🤢).

He had a rule that we weren’t allowed to bring bf/dh’s to the work’s Christmas do and that we all had to dance with him at some point.

The Xmas do was in a posh venue, in a large room with several other Christmas do’s from other businesses. I immediately latched on to this big, burly squaddie from one of the other parties (so far, so good), he ended up scaring off my boss from dancing with me (even better, going to plan)…but them I proceeded to get very, very drunk and got caught having sex with said squaddie behind a bush in the grounds. By about forty people from my office who were crossing the grounds to their cars/taxis. Because the bush was next to the car park. Which we hadn’t realised because…alcyhool. 🙃 Apparently I’m a wanton hussy with too much red wine in me.

And now, my face is burning with the shame of it again, despite it being twenty years ago now. That said, literally no-one ever mentioned it again after that night. I pretended not to remember the end of it. You’ll be fine if you brazen it out. Just…tell us he ain’t married or that could be painful.

Your boss is more in the wrong than you are as he is in a position of power. But yes you just need to brazen it out and think about putting your cv in order 😀

Fella cracked his head on a Mind Your Head sign and ended up in A&E.

Oh these stories are making me feel so much better so thank you so much everyone 👌😂

And he’s not married but I’m seeing someone. Although he sodded off on holiday 3 weeks ago and told me he had no internet and couldn’t message me whilst on holiday despite him being online constantly and updating his social media. He’s still there and not messaged me. I think my anger at that situation fuelled my drunken behaviour on Friday 😳🙈😂

I got drunk at a Christmas party and snogged a bloke who reported in to me. I was his manager and loads of people saw, I was mortified. I still work there, 23 years later... he still reports in to me but as my husband! Lol

I wouldnt worry too much

i went to one Christmas party,and because I’m old and boring,had one glass of wine and went home at 8:30pm (it started at 7pm)

a young girl (aged about 18) got plastered,heckled big bosses shitty speech,tried to give our boss a bj (through his trousers-with his wife at the next table),trashed her table,tried to take her clothes off,dirty danced with all the lads,chucked up all over bosses wife and was taken to hospital with alcohol poisoning

why they didn’t stop her from having another,I don’t know

same party-my friend had drank a full bottle of vodka beforehand,had a bottle of wine to herself,passed out in her plateful of korma and inhaled it-hospital for her too

both women just shrugged it off once back at work

the following year,we went bowling and no booze was allowed…

It's immature, but I'd just pretend it never happened (as in not deny, but just don't bring it up)! Or have a laugh about it and then change the subject. The beauty of Christmas parties is there will be a break and everyone will forget by the NY. Gosh, I'm glad those days are over, I cringe at some of past behaviour. Oh well, at least I had fun when I was young ...

Ha ha, I love it

I probably should add I'm married to my ex Manager (we snogged at a leaving do)

So ur both single, snogged at the office party and is there a chance of…?

We had a joint leavers do for those that left in the covid period /xmas do today. I left just as they were chucking us out. Turns out, the people behind me hung out a bit outside, where my direct report according to her gave the head of dept (not in her management structure and relatively new to the post although a long time member of staff ) a right going over verbally in front of a few others. She can't remember what started it or what exactly she said, but tomorrow could be interesting....oh dearie me. I was in an uber by this point, so have no idea, and she wasn't exactly coherent when she called me an hour later...

It's on him not you as he's the boss but stop looking for anything further, ain't going to happen. he's the one who has to style it out when you're back to work not you.

OP how was it when you saw him at work??

@Smileandtheworldsmileswithyou sorry, just seen this!
its Been fine thank goodness but we keep catching each other’s eye and he keeps standing very close when we are talking. I’m in work now and closing up later. Only me here but he’s turned up and sat in the office saying he’s going to stay for a while. I’m praying he’s drags me in the office and locks the door before I leave, hahaha! He’s very handsome.

I guy really drunk and passed out in the loos on one night out (I was really depressed and had hit self destruct for a while).

At one workplace we got free drink vouchers on a Friday for the local pub. A new start got spiked, stripped off, tucked his bits between his legs and ran around screeching ‘look at my Mangina’ he was still there years later when I left. At the same place an attractive female gave a blowjob to a married director on a fire escape. Someone managed to film it. When she walked in on the Monday the whole floor feel awkwardly silent. I got up and led her to the seat next to me. He was a sleazy dickhead. I reassured her that it would be tomorrows news soon enough.

You are mild in comparison.

Update please!!!