I have used up all my annual leave, now feeling stressed, what can I tell my Employer?

[temmy99]

The last time I felt like this was when I returned to work after my ds2 was 6 mths old. I hacked it for a couple of months and took 4 weeks off (annual leave) because I was constantly exhausted. I came back and since then it has been one thing or the other. I have decided to pack it all in but there is now talks of redundancy so I am thinking, If I could be made redundant then at least I will get some extra money. However, management is still dragging their feet so we don't know who or when the redundancy is going to come about so if I hand in my notice now I will only get paid to the end of the month. What can I do? I am just so tired of the commuting, the housework, the work everything......

My Dad has just been made redundant. The company he works for asked for volunteers for redundancy before choosing people who didn?t want to go (think my dad was first in the volunteer queue as he wanted to quit anyway). Could you maybe put your name forward to the management? However my dad still has about 3 months to go before the redundancy actually happens. I guess you?d need to find out what their terms are and how long you?d be expected to continue work and then think about how long you are willing to wait while the redundancy goes through. Have you worked for them for a long time and do you stand to get a good redundancy settlement? If so you might think it is worth hanging on a bit longer.

You've got into a place where leaving is easier than staying. Is there anyway you can manage to stay on? Grit your teeth and think of England until oh I dunno the end of March or something? Once you've got there you resign unless you've got your redundancy?

What is it that you are finding so hard?

Are there ways of dealing with those things so that life becomes more tolerable - at least until you know one way or the other re the redundancy.

Another option is to take parental leave, which although it is unpaid, will at least give you a couple of weeks off of work to gather your strength again.

Def worth hanging on in there for the moment. If you know it's not for the long term, just til you know where you stand with redundancies, then it may make it bearable. Bugger the housework, have some early nights and look after yourself.

If you can manage to do as Quattrocento said and give yourself a deadline, that might get you out of the negative loop you're in where you're in danger of just getting cross and handing in your notice. Even if you only think 'well, I'll give it till the 1st of March, and if there's no word by then, I'll hand in my notice', you might find it helps you hang on in there while they're making decisions about redundency. Also agree you should put your name forward if the possibiliity of redundancy is not a top secret that you shouldn't know.

Temmy39 - sorry you're feeling so low. Unpaid parental leave is one option, but you might want to try and look more closely for the reasons why you are feeling so low.

Not suggestion you just try and go on the sick or anything but you might want to have a chat with your GP. Everyone gets a bit knackered and fed up with work sometimes but if its a bit more than this then you should have a look at the underlying causes.

You could also think about trying to reduce your hours if you're struggling to cope? Obviously this depends on how agreeable your employers are and it could affect any eventual redundancy settlement.

I agree that letting the housework slip a bit might be good and make sure you're eating well, getting some fresh air and a bit of exercise as these kind of things can all help.

Hope you feel better soon.

Thank you everyone, it is so comforting to get a neutral person's view. My predicament is this, I currently have to commute a 4 hour round trip each day to work a 20 hour week ( I reduced my hours to accomodate dropping the dc at school and picking them up). I have tried to find something local but not with any success. I am now doing a one year part time course which is mainly coursework but I can't look at it until I get home and have put the dc to bed. I was offered voluntary redundancy but the terms of release were 'only if I was to be replaced' so I have not yet been considered. Those that have will be leaving at the end of this month. I really thought I would be released then and I have arranged two weeks holiday for me and dc but now it is not to be as the next planned release is April and there is no guarantee that I will picked. I have only been with the organisation for 5 years so what they are offering is approx 6 months pay but it would cushion the blow of leaving work, I don't know, I am depressed.