Not sure whether to make an issue of this or not, advice appreciated

[Rosieisposy]

This is a small thing, but is really irritating me and I would like some outside perspective.

I am in a job share, but most of what we do is completely separate, it is only one small area where we are combined to essentially make one person, if you like.

My colleague is demanding that correspondence relating to this area is emailed to her at a set time on a set day and that another colleague is CCD into it.

Ir seems really churlish to refuse, but I am really not happy about it at all, for two reasons. Firstly, I feel it is almost making it seem as if I am being formally monitored in some way (I’m not) and secondly, I do feel that a narrative is being shaped about me and this demand is part of it.

I have to admit that I am unsure how best to proceed, any thoughts?

Well I think as you are job sharing, it would seem reasonable to provide a status report of some kind for the other person. But it should be a two way thing, so she should be doing the same.

Why would you not? If you're work on fine it's not an issue. There should be a system for handover or information sharing and an audit trail.

I’m not objecting to some form of handover. I’m objecting to having to CC others into it. That seems to me to be ‘checking up’ - ensuring it has been done.

We can only go on what you say on here OP, you've obviously attached some personal meaning to being given a deadline for this document that is never going to be obvious to anyone reading your post. I think reshaping your own narrative is the way to go here.

@ChicCroissant i think it’s been unclear what I’m not happy about which is probably my fault.

To put it another way - someone is insisting that a routine part of my job has to have someone else CCd in the email. That other person is not their or my superior.

I don’t feel it’s appropriate to insist that I have to do this. Aside from the fact that the people telling me to do this are not my superiors, passive aggressive CCing really is a thing and not a very pleasant one. I want to nip it in the bud now.

Well it is still hard to comment without context, have you asked why this person needs to be copied in and if so what was the answer?

Who is the other person. What is their role? Does your line manager agree to this other person being supplied with this information. To what end?
What reason has your job share partner given for telling you to CC this person in to emails?
Is perhaps your job share partner being monitored and therefore needs to have any work she is involved in available to a colleague to ensure her input is monitored?

Email the information to your job-share person and tell her that she is welcome to forward the email to whomever she wants.

Depends who the other person is. Is it someone who would cover for her if she's sick? Can you not say that's a great idea can you do the same to me?

Can you not ask her via email why you have to CC xxxx in?

or just don’t CC her in

in the past have you submitted your part of the work late or something?

I mean is this other person her friend? Is she relevant to the role

Who is the other person. What is their role?

The same as mine.

Does your line manager agree to this other person being supplied with this information. To what end?

LM had not been informed

What reason has your job share partner given for telling you to CC this person in to emails?

Has not given one. I think that she is trying to essentially say she doesn’t trust me to do it.

Is perhaps your job share partner being monitored and therefore needs to have any work she is involved in available to a colleague to ensure her input is monitored

No, it’s not her input - it’s mine. We only overlap on one very small area and in the first few weeks she would ‘handover’ but it would always be done in a very officious sort of way - no issue with what she was actually saying but the general tone was brusque and commanding rather than pleasant and polite, if you see what I mean. Then she insisted on ‘formal handovers’ but without involving line manager.

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar that’s probably not a bad idea!

If you don't like the CC aspect just send it to your jobshare, they can forward it on if it's so important to them. Job done.

Yep. And if she asks you again say “feel free to share it on if you feel it’s necessary”

Implying you don’t feel it’s necessary

So is it because if you are both off as other person does this job too, they know what to do?