Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Work

Chat with other users about all things related to working life on our Work forum.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

Returning to work after ML - April 08 support

57 replies

StealthPolarBear · 28/01/2008 17:35

Hope this is ok, i could do with some, and i think there are a few of us from a breastfeeding thread. this isn't meant to be just about feeding though.

OP posts:

oooggs · 28/01/2008 21:31

hi katy, NL & momma - I'm back on 16th April, nursery booked, they start 2nd April!!!!!

Dts will be joining ds1 at 'his nursery'.

doing 16 hours over 3 days - may just save my sanity

oooggs · 28/01/2008 21:33

and Katy (SPB) I know I am the only one who can look after all my children at the same time

Sycamoretree · 28/01/2008 21:36

Karen999 you are right. I have to let him find his own feet, and to a certain extent, let him fight his own battles, if indeed any battles arise, as the are all in my own imagination at the moment. I just love DH so much and get a bit cross at thought of anyone casting aspersions (spelling?) on his not being a proper bloke, IYKWIM. Yes, kiddies are v. lucky to be with Daddy, and I am lucky to be a working mum who can have peace of mind knowing kids are with family. I have been in situation with DD when she was with a nanny and a part of me was always quietly freaking out that I didn't know exactly where she was and what she was doing at all times. Think I will shut up now and count my lucky stars, or something

NorthernLurker · 28/01/2008 21:46

sycamoretree- I think this is a situation where you've just got to step back and see how it goes. Any hint that your dh isn't doing so well with it then change the situation - exactly the same as if you were at home full-time and started going up the walls. You would look at Nursery or or some other way to work part-time wouldn't you - well there's no reason why the same can't be true for your dh.

Can I have positive vibes for the meeting with my manager this week. Need to hammer out what job I'm going back to - and I think it will be fine - but bit worried anyway.

Original poster

StealthPolarBear · 28/01/2008 21:48

33kjs - it's the weekend soon
Hi oooggs, how are you feeling about it?
No need to apologise for hijacking sycamore, work woes are what this thread is for!

OP posts:

Karen999 · 28/01/2008 21:52

NorthernLurker...sending you LOADS of good vibes.....

NorthernLurker · 28/01/2008 21:57

thanks

Sycamoretree · 28/01/2008 22:07

Many vibes to you NorthernLurker. Yes, we'll figure it out if it all goes pear-shaped. Think this post has helped me realise my concerns are much more to do with DH's self-esteem - so maybe I should just sit tight and wait to see if there is actually a problem before I start panicking!

NorthernLurker · 28/01/2008 22:09

Good thinking sycamoretree - you never know he might love it so much he refuses to give up the playdoh etc and you have to have five more children to keep him happy

Sycamoretree · 28/01/2008 22:14

Now, I was just about to log off and go to bed Northerlurker, and you have just put the fear of god in me so much that I will have to pour another large glass of vino and do one more skip around the threads I'm on until I calm down .

NorthernLurker · 28/01/2008 22:16

MommaFeelgood · 28/01/2008 23:26

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

oooggs · 29/01/2008 08:20

katy - looking forward to dts starting nursery as I am exhausted and have hardly had a minute to myself in 10 months.

But going to work would honestly love to be able to put dts in nursery and stay home and potter decorate, gardening, cooking - have a shower in peace but that isn't going to happen.

I am worried a bit about work as have been on same team for 7 years (I was missed in all previous movearounds) and they are going to move me, just the usual - feeling like a new job senerio - especially as I will have been off 14 mths and probably can't remember anything

how about you guys? I am obviously worried more about work than childcare - but that is due to ds1 being at this nursery for the past 3 years and the staff are like family, infact the nursery managers daughter is 10 days younger than ds1, they had a joint birthday party and she was fantastic during my twin pregnancy which had more downs than ups.

MommaFeelgood · 29/01/2008 09:06

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

Catz · 29/01/2008 11:55

Hi all,
Can I join too? Going back to work from mat leave in April when DD (my first) is 9 months. Supposed to be going back full time but the nursery that is heavily subsidised by work can only do 2 days until Sep. I'm pretty thrilled at the idea of having an ex use to go back PT... just trying to negotiate exactly whether that's acceptable or not but looking hopeful (esp if I have a babysitter at the house and work from home one day).

I was going to post exactly the same feeding Q as the one on the breat/bottle thread. Also a bit paranoid about naps as DD is a bit of a 20 min napper and needs bf to sleep to get that.... 2 months to turn her into a perfect, 'put her in the cot and she'll coo gently before falling asleep' baby. Hmm.

Catz · 29/01/2008 11:57

sorry that's excuse not 'ex use' baby also trying to type with me - a reminder of why working from home and looking after her won't work!

Karen999 · 29/01/2008 12:31

Welcome Catz!! Hope you manage to sort your hours out!

oooggs · 29/01/2008 13:04

welcome C!!!!!!!

DS1 was a nightmare daytime sleeper (car seat or pram) yet at nursery they could get him to sleep in the day in the cot I really didn't believe it until I saw it for myself on afternoon when I went to pick him up.

Even between 2-3 year olds lay on the floor on matress' and all went to sleep - and yes he did that as well - home was another matter

ds2 is also a terrible daytime sleeper - but I have seen them do it before so that is one thing less to worry about.

Momma - that is great news about the webcam - I wouldn't get anywork done

Original poster

StealthPolarBear · 29/01/2008 15:23

Hi Catz!

OP posts:

Karen999 · 29/01/2008 15:31

Think I am going to be way more productive when I am back at work...all I seem to do is look after dd2 and sit on MN!! The house is a complete mess but because I am not working I always think..."oh well, will tackle it all tomorrow" and never do!!

Yep, note to self.....GET ORGANISED!

bilblio · 29/01/2008 16:44

Hi, can I join?
I'm due back at the end of March/start of April and I'm dreading it. I'm hoping to go back on similar hours as last time, 37.5 over 3 days, so that's 2 shifts of about 11 hours and 1 shift where I'm in for 24 hours. Horribly long shifts, but it does mean I'll be home 4 days a week.

SycamoreTree - I'm in a similar situation. DP will be SAHD, but he's never worked, and I've supported him. I know what you mean about the dinner party situation, I've had it for years, we've never really discussed it though and I often think I feel more awkward about it than him... but then no one asks him, it's me that does the explaining. Him being a SAHD is likely to make things easier socially, I'm hugely envious though and worried that will cause problems instead.

Got a meeting with my manager Friday to discuss hours, and a possible change of work location. I know they're fully staffed where I used to be, but I don't know if a total change will be harder or easier to deal with.

Original poster

StealthPolarBear · 29/01/2008 17:03

bilblio, what on earth do you do??

OP posts:

Sycamoretree · 29/01/2008 20:46

Hi Bilblio - nice to meet someone else in similar situation. Is this your first LO? Is your DP happy about doing the childcare? Do you trust him?????? It's been wierd for me having DH at home through most of my maternity leave - feel like I never really got myself organised because I had someone else around to lend a hand, if that makes sense. With DD (now 2.5yrs) I was so much more organised cos it was just me and her and I had to be, IYKWIM!

bilblio · 29/01/2008 21:13

I look after adults with Learning Disabilities in a small residential home.
I know the hours sound horrific, but they're not too bad really, we're technically off-duty from about 11pm till 7am and we have our own bedroom, we just have to be on the premises in case anything happens. Not that I ever got a good nights sleep except for when I was pregnant and exhausted. But it certainly beats 9-5 in my opinion.

It's a great job and I really do love it... I'd just rather be looking after DD instead, not seeing her for basically 3 days a week is going to be very very hard to deal with.

Original poster

StealthPolarBear · 29/01/2008 21:34

OP posts:

Flip

1 2 3