Some advice please

[Tabasco007]

Hello, I'm in a bit of a quandary, job wise. I left a long term roll a number of years ago, pre Covid, left as I got a bit bored and wanted a change, I had been with the company 15 years plus.... anyway, fast forward, few weird years work wise, but survived, learnt a bit about myself etc etc. I'm now back in my old industry, happy about that as I realise I do love it and am very good at it. I work in a slightly different area, (geographically) which in many ways is a nice change....a company has approached me to work for them, in my old area, and I can't decide what to do as whilst i know a lot of the people locally sometimes it feels like going back... anyone out there wanna help me pick this apart so I can work out what to do. I have massively regretted leaving my old job, they are in the area of the new job and much more successful, as are the people I work for now.... not sure the point of this, but I'm going round and round and thought some savvy mumsnet person would help me try to unpick it. Im menopausal, feel like I totally f'd up my career and have lost a bit chunk of my identity....... as I was the manager in my old role and everyone new me and clearly, now in reflection it made me feel good.....

Can you be a bit clearer about the pluses and negatives of your present job and the new one?

Or is it just about going back to your own area and running into people who once knew you in a more senior position? If that’s the case, you have to style that out and do what’s best for you.

The pluses are I would be in an area I know, so could do very well there, the negatives are it feels a bit like going back...

Yes, I could style that out, and I'd still be a manager... I have a real problem with decision making, which has defo got worse in the last year or two... it's driving me nuts!

It's hard leaving somewhere that you've been a long time. I had a similar thing about a decade ago. Left a job I'd done for a long time (I was redeployed so it wasn't my choice). I really struggled. I lost a lot of my social circle and sense of identity as a result. I then went onto have kids which made it worse. I've often thought about 'going back'. I work in the same company still. But I couldn't now. It wasn't the job I missed really. It was that carefree child free life I missed.

If you are in a different company now, how likely would it be that you would encounter people from your past role?

Just picking this up as I am still struggling to make a decision. It highly likely that the company I am with now and the company I might go too, will have dealings with each other, but that's the industry I'm in. I have the job I have now and the one offered to me because I worked for another competitor at one point, so we have all had dealing with each other and they know I was a good worker at my previous company.

Bump too, what I like if is there are any Mumsnet people out there who can think of questions to help me work out what's going on. The pros and cons etc. Cos I literally wake up thinking one thing and then change my mind repeatedly throughout the day! What's that all
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