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New job demoralising

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noworkie · 19/10/2022 00:30

Hi everyone, regular poster but NC, first time I've posted in Work.

I started a new job in July that I was very excited about. It's with a company X I worked at 6 years ago and had really enjoyed my time with. But back then they had pay freeze/no promotions so i left for a better offer. A recruiter got in touch this year at the same company X with a role that looked promising. My job at the time was under potential risk as a huge merger taking place so I decided to accept it.

The role discussed at interview with the line manager had a clear brief, is one I'm experienced in but a different area to what I normally do. They said there was a little bit of coaching they'd have to do to plug the gaps, so couldn't come in at the top rate of band. I accepted a tiny pay cut thinking it was a great opportunity to learn and progress in role, and better work life balance.

Anyway, it's now Oct and I'm the most miserable I've been. Not only is the role far more junior in practice, and completely different to what I was told - there isn't any actual work for me to do! For context I'm a senior manager normally, and I'm being used as a general dogsbody for people to do admin tasks I wouldn't even ask an intern to do. In fact, there isn't even much of that to do. I was told there was line management responsibility, and there is none atm. I have zero powers or influence, no budgets, and feel like a spare part in most meetings because I don't have any responsibilities. In some cases I'm sort of reporting into my peers.

I raised this issue with my boss with some suggestions on how to change my role to be more effective. He got defensive and a bit cross and said I just wasn't understanding the role and needed to figure it out. I took some time again to make sure I had tried everything - no luck. Even asked if there anything else on his plate I could take on. He's now said that this is the role and he can't help much if I don't want to do it. The rest of the team also have some struggles but no one as bad as mine. General consensus is that my role really is a cluster f*k and they can see why I'm struggling. No one knows how it even got signed off as headcount.

I realised I'm getting paid to do not very much. But it's killing my self esteem and morale. Because I have no work, no line management and no ownership. It's a big company so there are a lot of other vacancies and jobs I could do. But my boss would probably take that very personally, and given my short tenure I need his blessing to transfer out. Speaking to his boss would likewise go down like a lead balloon. I can't see there being any new work for me popping up because we've done planning for next year already - there isn't anything. Mostly I'm realised this role is not going to be do anything for progression or growth. The work life balance is very good though and I like my team.

What would you do in my place? I realise I can apply for other jobs but am worried how it looks to be applying after just a few months in role. Feeling like a huge failure atm because I'm 36, and have ended up in this situation and feeling trapped.

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noworkie · 19/10/2022 09:13

Hopeful bump

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TheGhostOfLiz · 19/10/2022 09:19

I actually don't think it's such a big deal applying for new jobs after such a short period. You simply explain what you've written here - it's a perfectly good reason for looking again so soon and has the added benefit of 'putting off' employers who might also be recruiting for clusterf*ck jobs Grin

However, if you are determined not to do that then I'd focus all my efforts on smashing out the park anything I was given to do. Plus taking on anything that got me noticed or interaction with other bits of the business. E.g. offering to help organise social stuff or charity stuff. Getting involved with any other cross department inititives.

Then, when a role came up I wanted, I'd go for it regardless of how it made my current manager feel. The worse that could happen is they block the move. Then I know where I stand and can look utside the company. The best that can hapen is that I get into a role in company that I enjoy.

cupofteaandawaffle · 19/10/2022 09:22

Totally feel for you, that’s a horrible situation to be in. It’s not your fault at all - they misled you and are showing poor management. You need to look for another job. Don’t worry about how it looks - you’ll be thinking about this more than the potential new employer will. Just have a simple explanation about the role not being what it was sold as and not a good fit for your experience. You don’t need to over explain it; everyone knows this is something that happens sometimes.

bigblueyonder · 19/10/2022 09:31

Poor management and lack of transparency means this job is going nowhere. The longer you stay the harder it is to move.

Forget how they would feel if you move, they have failed here so feel free to go and get a new role either internally or externally.

noworkie · 19/10/2022 21:58

Thank you for the advice. Some good suggestions here!

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CounterQueen · 20/10/2022 09:13

Hi @noworkie - sympathies.

I was in a very similar position earlier on in my career some years ago. I accepted a role in a huge organisation which felt as though it was going to be a fabulous step up and really take my career places.

After the honeymoon period wore off and I had properly settled in, I realised that I was BORED!!! I was only getting to do half the things in the job spec and at a much more junior level than what I was used to. Work life balance was amazing as I had nothing to do and I kept telling myself that I would be mad to give it up as the pay was so good, and maybe I should just try to enjoy it for a couple of years. The team were lovely too.

By 12 months in I was on antidepressants (first time ever in my life) and utterly miserable. I lasted 16 months and took a small pay cut to move to a different role which promised all the experience I wasn’t getting. I ended up staying in that role for five happy years until I moved countries.

Life is too short. You need to do what makes you happy.

Figgyroller · 20/10/2022 09:33

@noworkie Sympathies from here as well. I am actually in a very similar position, albeit 20 years older than you and wondering if I can cope with just mooching through to retirement (I suspect not, but that is my problem not yours).

In my situation, while my "role" was completely oversold, I do have vast amounts of skills/experience which are very relevant to other parts of the organisation. It sounds like you may be similiar. If so, I would possibly advise is to network as much as possible to get yourself /your experience "known" - working out who the power players are in the areas that may fit your skills better and working out a strategy on how to get yourself known, by volunteering to run relevant projects/working on cross functional teams/even providing (friendly!) advice if there is a problem that you have direct experience in. All of these have worked for me in the past/am deploying them now. It may also be useful to work out if there is a development culture of employees moving between roles on a regular basis - this would work in your favour if so.

Or just leave and find a job which fits better. 🙂

CantHaveTooMuchChocolate · 20/10/2022 11:24

Just leave, it sounds miserable. Don’t bother looking internally, just go outside of the company. I suspect nearly everyone will have had a short duration on their cv at some point from a job like this (or other reasons), so unless it’s a pattern then it should be no problem at all. Just be careful with the next one (research the company culture, glassdoor, etc). Good luck!

TippyToesKnows · 01/11/2022 22:04

@noworkie I could literally have written this post! Feeling so utterly miserable with it at the moment. In my case, part of why I have so little to do is my line manager liked the idea of my role...but in reality doesn't want to step back from doing it themselves so I'm basically just their sounding board and nothing else. Yes, as other pps have suggested, I can look for opportunities to "dazzle" but it's just degrading and demoralising when I was previously very senior and well respected in my own right in other companies.

Personally I'm not finding it easy to look for new jobs. I love my team, work life balance is great. And in the time I've been here the job market has changed massively. My role can be remote so similar jobs are receiving literally hundreds of applicants, all over the country. Really feels like I'm stuck.

halomutov · 02/11/2022 12:50

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