Don’t even know where to start with new job…

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It’s become a bit of a nightmare! Started 5 months ago, had zero training, was just expected to get on with it. It’s a very high pressure, fast paced role(scheduling of transportation of goods across Europe). So busy we can’t take our lunch breaks. The two male bosses never answer questions, don’t relay important information, like to keep everything a secret, are intentionally unhelpful.
Another new woman started the same day that I did. She’s nice enough to me and we work ok together but she’s made some colossal mistakes at work. She’s very young and not from the UK and she’s abrupt, rude, stroppy, fiery, argumentative etc to the all male workforce. Add to this the fact that she’s slept with three of them already since she started, which has caused direct competition between them, and created calls of favouritism with the scheduling amongst the others towards her current ‘fuck buddy’. It’s a real mess. She argues with someone every single day. They have no respect for her. I just do my job and go home. I’m mid 40s and sick of this shit.

My issue is, because we started the same day, we are getting treated like we are one single entity. We are the only two people on our team. I get pulled into the office alongside her and admonished for upsetting the workforce literally weekly. It’s driving me insane. I’ve tried calling the bosses out on it and they just say I’m as bad as her with zero evidence of that. No one else in the business agrees and are always shocked I'm ‘in trouble’ yet again. How do I even resolve this? I feel like she’s ruined my new role beyond repair and it’s my dream job. 😫

Hmm that's your dream job? I would get a new job.

Look for another job.

I started a job and it was this bad early on and I talked myself into trying to make it work. Years later I was still there, confident at an all time low, stressed and miserable. I worried it would look bad to move on but I saw several really good candidates join whilst I was there and move themselves on again before their probation was up. I don't think its seen badly at interview if you say the job wasn't as described.

Look for a new job.

Yes but it’s a completely new area of expertise for me and most places want two years doing this job. I was hoping to stay here two years then move on. So frustrating!

I think cut your losses. It is not going to get better. If you are in the probation period, you only need to give one week's notice. It is easier to explain a gap in your CV if you quit immediately.

What is the job market like in your field?

I think you need to find another job.

But I also think you need to call out the two bosses. In what ways are you upsetting people. Make them come up with concrete examples. And then when they can't, insist on an apology and say you won't put up with being blamed for something you haven't done. If they won't apologise, put it in writing. And I would document all the meetings you've had where they've been blaming you for things you haven't done. Next time you are called into the office, say you'll go in individually but you wont be lumped with a co-worker.

I had this when I was much younger than you are now. My boss said "oh people have said you're abrasive". So I told him to give examples. He couldn't or wouldn't. He didn't repeat the allegations. You need to stand up for yourself and not put up with this nonsense.

Worst case scenario, they get rid of you. You don't like the job anyway. But I bet they won't.