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Bullying at work

7 replies

ComebackQueen · 04/10/2022 12:50

Hi all.

I recently returned to work about three months ago after Mat Leave , in that time they changed my job role and, promoted me over an older and long standing colleague. Everything was going ok until they moved me last month. Since then, I’ve been gossiped about, people making up lies that I back stabbed the colleague. People taking bets on me getting fired.

it’s come to a point that I am having panic attacks, can not sleep. I’ve lost 8lbs in 3 weeks, great as I shifted the baby weight but not so good as it’s come at a human cost. I am crying and losing confidence in my ability to do my job. The perpetrator is bullying someone else but the company don’t seem that fazed to take much action. Their philosophy is, I’m being paid well to just take it on the chin. I cried so much I thought I couldn’t breathe.

I am filled with dread thinking of going back in tomorrow.

There is no HR per se and everything I say, falls on deaf ears. I can’t believe that my baby’s turning one and it’s been overshadowed by me having a complete break down this morning in the bathroom.

We need the money because my husband was made redundant in March but has a new job but it’s peanuts compared to his old role. We can just about cover the mortgage and essential bills on his wage so my salary is much needed but I can’t feel this ill and unwell doing the job. My husband thinks I need to speak to my GP, if I am signed off, that’s fine but can I be signed off and hand in my notice?

It’s come to a point where I am physically and emotionally exhausted and, I want my appetite back, I want to smile again, I want to be able to sleep again.

I’ve lost hair which may be weight loss related as well as stress and, honestly, if I don’t take a break, I scare myself thinking just what this will push me into or to do.

can someone just reassure me that things will be ok and, I’ll be fine?

I’m so scared.

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Virgo1958 · 05/10/2022 19:40

Can you change job? Start having a look round for another job, this isn’t the only job in the world. Just looking makes me feel better knowing there are alternatives.

PinkFrogss · 05/10/2022 20:13

Start keeping a written track of every incident and also who you raised it to, I would email it to yourself so it’s time stamped.

When you raise it with a manager email a follow up e.g. just to recap our discussion today, I have made you aware of x occurrence with bully.

Raise a grievance and start job hunting.

Im so sorry this is happening OP Flowers

ComebackQueen · 05/10/2022 20:24

Thank you both @PinkFrogss and @Virgo1958 my GP signed me off and, I have an interview next week.

Ive also been told the other lady she bullied just walked out of the job.

I have asked to make a formal complaint but I am hoping that I get a new position asap.

i just hope she doesn’t find another target after I leave!

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2ManyPjs · 05/10/2022 20:29

I hope you get a new job soon and I really sympathise with your situation. In the meantime, I would ask ACAS for advice on this on how best to deal with it, if you are not in a union. They will give you really good guidance on your rights, the the responsibilities of your work towards you in a 'duty of care' sense.

If there is no HR in your work, who deals with grievances?

And yes, you can hand in your notice any time, even if you're on sick leave.

ComebackQueen · 05/10/2022 20:35

Thanks @2ManyPjs ACAS never even crossed my mind.

As for HR, we have a staff partner, in name only…

That is good to know I can hand in my notice whilst on sick leave.

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Jesst87 · 12/12/2022 11:28

Next time she accuses you of smelling like alcohol, tell your boss you need to immediately go to the doctors and go to hospital to get a blood test done showing no alcohol. Send a copy of the result to your boss by email telling him that if he allows this orher person to continue to bully you, you will sue for defamation and bullying and that you want it stopped immediately. The next time she says the cake tastes like alcohol, take it back and wat it all telling her you will be leaving straight after to go get a blood test and than you will be suing her for defamation. When she sees you mean business she will hopefully stop

toucaninjapan · 29/08/2023 00:37

How is it going now for you OP?

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