So stressed in new job

[Chickenwing2]

I started a new job about 3 months ago, and I absolutely hate it. It was a step up in position for me, with a good increase in salary.

The problem is I hate it. I am intimidated by my manager, I am struggling massively with the workload (and working extra hours daily to try and catch up) and I'm doubting the field of work suits me. I am anxious constantly and am always worrying about work.

My husband thinks leaving will look bad on my CV as I have been there such a short period of time, but I genuinely don't think I can cope much longer without it seriously impacting my mental health.

Do you think I will struggle to find another job since I have been at this company for such a short period of time?

Hi OP, I know how you feel as I was feeling exactly the same in my last job, it's so stressful waking up every day and going in.
Have you tried to care less? I say this because I tried it and it really helped me.
Literally try not to worry so much and just go with the flow. If you haven't done something and someone asks you why, just say ah I haven't had time yet but I will get to it etc.
Do you think the job is above you? Because chances are it's not. Just remember everyone is winging it, even your horrible manager :-)

I didn’t want to read and run. To be honest I think you should stick it out for at least 3 more months before deciding, as it normally takes 6 months before things start to get easier in most jobs.
I am in a very similar position to you except it’s been 6 weeks, and things are starting to improve already, although the stress is still there.
if it’s still bad at the 6 month mark then start looking at job boards and put feelers out. In the meantime try to write down all of the things you are learning and see it as personal development. You can then use this to bump up your CV in a few months time.

That's rotten, sorry you're going through this OP
I think many of us at some point in our careers have gone into a job that was a mistake. You're not the first and certainly won't be the last.

Can you focus on it as a learning experience and gain as many skills as you can. I have an attitude that my work are lucky to have me working for them snd that always helps

Life is too short to feel so anxious and intimidated at work. Start looking for something else, often once you make a decision to go it gets easier to cope with in the meantime.

It's fine having one job on your CV that only lasted a few months, loads of people have that. It's only a problem if you've got several jobs you didn't stick for long.
Just explain it away that you discovered that type of work didn't suit you but big up all the skills you acquired there..

Good luck

Exactly in the same boat! Except I am in my 8th month and I am swamped under workload which gives me anxiety, racing with time constantly as all my assignments have tight deadlines and I am overwhelmed is an understatement! I am actively looking

I feel similar, I feel like it’s taking me so long to do things because it’s all new to me and takes me ages to find answers to things. People expect because I’m now a manager that I should know everything and I don’t. I’m trying to focus on the positives and what i have learnt and what i have done and I know I’ll get quicker and slowly get on top but in the meantime I feel like I’m drowning and having to put in extra hours of my own time

I started a job less than a month ago and I have decided to leave.

It is not at all or what was sold to me at the interview (way more junior than what I expected) and it is not the right culture and organisation for me.

Nothing is going to improve as I have discovered there are long standing issues with the department I am in, lack of planning, endless meetings, projects that have not been worked on for months that I am suddenly asked to resolve in days...

But the worse thing is that my health has nose-dived very quickly (I have a long term health condition) so I am going before things get any worse. A friend who saw me today commented on how bad and exhausted I looked...

I won't even mention it on my CV as I don't want to be associate with them.

After all that what probation periods are for it is a chance for both employer and employee to work out whether this is the right fit.

Unless you absolutely need the money, I never understand the rational behind staying in a role that is making your miserable and will never be the right fit.

Better to put all your focus on job hunting again and get a more suitable role.

My last role lasted 15 weeks. I absolutely hated it. to the point where I woke up and felt sick everyday.

I had to leave. If you are confident you can find a role quickly then go for it and leave. But amicably!

Job hunting is a regional thing, some places have loads and loads of jobs. And others have 1 per 100 applicants so have a look at the job boards and decide. You'll know 😊

Just don't do what I did and suffer mentally from staying put. Worst time of my life that resulted in a breakdown and meds!