I was called an NPC

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A 17 year old son of a work colleague said to me 'don't take this the wrong way, but you're like an NPC in a game'. No idea what it meant at the time, probably just as well. But my daughter told me it's really bad. Like I'm a ghost with no opinions of my own. I'm now questioning my entire existence based on what a 17 year old boy said to me. Maybe I should grow a pair?!

If you're a producer of course that gives context to this comment

And definitely more in a positive way

Hopefully the nasty posters saying shit about a child will wind their necks in over it

The OP is a producer

Which gives a lot of context to this comment

So maybe hold out for the info before being horrible about a child in future

Should preface this with the fact that he is a delightful human being. Uber bright.

Self-obsessed teenager is the staring character in his own life story, and views a parent age adult as just a background figure. Says nothing about you, says everything about how absorbed (and bloody rude!) teenagers are. He'll (probably) grow out of it.

don't take this the wrong way, but you're like an NPC in a game'.
When has anyone ever started a sentence with 'don't take this the wrong way/no offence but' without actually then being rude or offensive?!

I am struggling with you believing he’s delightful… When people preface a sentence with “No offense but…” they are trying to mitigate the fallout from verbalizing something INTENDED to be offensive. (Hurtful, etc.) He’s a bully.

Thing is, offence is never given. If it's intended then the recipient of the information will know well before it's imparted. Teenagers can be brats, sure, though it's not in good taste to just dunk on him for having an honest opinion. He's not a bully, he's an opinionated teenager. He may actually be a very bright and intelligent young man.

No idea what the people relating it to you being a producer are talking about. NPC is a fairly standard insult these days and means you're someone whose opinions and decisions stem from the society you live in- you're not free or in control of your own views. It's a very solipsistic insult and one which shows a lack of maturity and self-knowledge on the part of the person who said it- after all, we're all influenced by the society we live in, including your teenage friend with his insults straight out of 2014. (There's also a small contingent who think we're in a simulation in which there are literal NPCs who don't know they're NPCs but I'm assuming he didn't mean this. You never know though.)

The comment above about everyone being a NPC in other people's lives has it right.

If he's that bright but still coming out with things like that, then he's messed his stats up. Too much Intelligence but not enough Wisdom or Charisma. Better hope he has high Constitution if he says something nasty to the wrong NPC.

All teens think all middle aged people are NPCs.... that's how it is.
I can remember preaching to my mum about recycling when I came back from uni in the 80s like my generation had invented it
She was taking pop bottles back for a deposit as a kid. And eating chips out of second hand newspaper and darning socks.
She smiled and nodded. I now have the utmost respect for that.
Ignore. Teens are basically gits.

I'm curious to know what you were doing or what was being talked about to cause this comment.

I honestly think it says much more about him ( or what he misses in life) than about you. You run a home and maintain a full time job with responsibilities - what can he know about what that involves.

Also if you don't know him well you aren't going to spout forth with your views on the present state of the world- you'll make general conversation like everyone does.

Please can someone explain the 'producer' relevance to me? How does that make it better/ worse?

An excellent response <files just in case>

I litterly have been called an NPC by 3 people in my school and i dont know why and in my heart i feel like crying

but my friend says I need a therapist

My teenagers call people NPCs all the time. I knew it meant non playable character from videogames but ive just assumed it was neutral.
I think your mistake here is to give a fuck what your colleagues teenage son thinks or says. Hes just an NPC