Would you change jobs if husband didn't approve

[pancakes222]

I have a 9-5 job 2 days a week in hospital but would really like to try my hand at something more clinical and go for a role that unfortunately is shift work. DH has said if I have to do it then we could try however he doesn't understand why I am potentially putting so much more stress on him and the kids by starting shift patterns meaning more childcare/not seeing kids when they wake/miss bedtimes etc for such little pay. To be fair I get where he's coming from but at the same time if I was being selfish I would love the opportunity to be involved on a ward and NHS and work alongside midwives/doctors that I admire so much. I did say wouldn't you be proud of the fact I'd be helping people but he says he's proud of the mum that I am and would rather I was there at pick up for the kids and be a constant in their life. He's being slightly dramatic but I know he has a point. I don't know whether to go for it and try and put my job/curiosity first for once so I'm not wondering what if and just see if we manage or if I should respect his opinion and accept that shift patterns just aren't family friendly

In my experience shift work can actually mean more time with the kids, not less. Likewise childcare requirements won't necessarily increase, they may even reduce, unless he means the requirement for him to do childcare alone would increase, which is pretty unsupportive of him.

He is being unreasonable not to support you in your career progression. You both need to discuss what this actually means for the family. Think about the changes and any issues they may create. Think about solutions. Don't let him guilt you, using time with the kids as a reason. Don't let him hold you back. Have you anyone who could assist with childcare if necessary? That's the thing that's hardest to manage when working shifts