Abortion, what too tell new job?

[funkygal12]

Unfortunately I've taken the very hard decision too have a termination of my pregnancy. I was meant too start my new job a few weeks back but it's been pushed back. Finally I have a start date which is on Monday which I was informed about today. However I am away on holiday and I'm having a home termination which was sorted while I was away. As soon as I'm home I'm starting the process which is on Saturday. I know I need a some time in the early week too do part of the process and recovery time. I need some advice on what too tell work on why I can't start on that day?

It's a difficult one because I have been pushing work for a start date before I found out I was pregnant.

I would tell them you are having a minor medical procedure on Monday, and can you push the start date back a few days.

No need to elaborate.

You've had a bereavement/loss which will be true - I had three bereavements (1 blood relative and two non blood all in very close weeks of each other) last Autumn when I found myself going for new job just at the wrong time of life, because I was going to be the 'new person' I found people didn't overly ask to much, like they might of done had I been a long-term member of a team or as someone already stepped into the workplace and one of the firms who it turned out wanted a next day start, were prepared to actively move the start date to 3 weeks later.

I recall once an old friend got genuinely held up on travelling back from their holiday and got the start date delayed a week, but they then found themselves let go week 2. (they were a bit of the bold outspoken sort in the week place so unsure if it was them or the delay to start didn't help)

"Unfortunately I'm away on holiday and won't be back until Wednesday. Can we push the start date back til then?"

Unexpected medical procedure sounds like the right approach to me. Truthful but not a lot of detail if you don't want to give it.

If you say it's a bereavement, they might ask you (probably sympathetic) questions about whether it was someone close to you, etc. That might be hard to answer if you don't want to give more details.