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Anyone dreading going back to work after summer holidays?

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Naimee87 · 07/08/2022 17:54

I am dreading next week and having to go back to work. I hate my job, it’s so dull/stressful and i’m a terrible fit for my role, how this hasn’t been discovered is beyond me. I have great colleagues and my team are brilliant . The pay is really decent and we’re still able to WFH too. But i have a huge knot in my stomach at the thought of starting back again after two weeks. I reckon my colleague whose covered for me has likely done a way better job than i ever have. I feel like things will have gone wrong and i’ll be called in to face ‘the music’. The environment and culture is very corporate and just so far from where i feel i should be, if that makes sense. There are a lot of ‘climb the ladder’ people and hardly anyone takes actual holidays without setting aside time to check their email, carrying two phones and they are always available at short notice for ‘urgent’ things. Late evenings/weekends we aren’t working yet its hard not to react to something that’s come through. Or dwell on something that came in. So properly switching off is almost impossible.

I’m currently training to do something completely different, no emails or being glued to a screen all day. Totally different industry and more one where work can be left at work. But the salary would be considerably lower and working hours would be shifts/fixed, WFH is not an option at all. I’m 35 and a single parent to a 13yr old he’s really great and already pretty independent. We’ve no other financial support so it’s a decision i really need to think about. Just wondered if anyone had made the change and found it had done them and their family the world of good…

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AnnaGB · 07/08/2022 18:18

Sorry to hear you hate your job, as it’s such a big part of everyone’s life. I was dreading going back to work after 3 weeks off recently, week I was sick (COVID) then 2 weeks off during the lovely weather.

Similar thing to you, very bright ambitious people, organisation always asking for innovation, people working long hours.

But weirdly when I went back to work was pleasantly surprised, lots of people are on holiday or working from home so office was really quiet. People who were in asked me about my holiday and I had a nice day.

It's really hard to choose between lifestyle and job/financial security. I have been debating that my whole career but always ended up staying (am early 50s).

See if you can have lunch or coffee with someone at work on the first day back and am sure that will make a bit of difference.

Retiredandfree · 07/08/2022 18:24

Why do you think you are not a good fit and your covering colleague has done better? Is your manager unhappy with your work? WFH would have been a huge plus for me before I retired. Good colleagues are a huge bonus with a job too.

Could you afford to take another job with lower pay, especially with the cost of living rises, and extra commuting costs? If you would be able to afford it, I would go for a new job, as at the end of the day, you have to think about yourself, and be happy at work, if you dread going back after time off, it takes its toll on you. Think hard before you take the leap though, are you currently in a sector that would be easy to to return to if you didn’t like the new job?

LifeOfBriony · 07/08/2022 18:53

I'm dreading going back to work tomorrow. We are short staffed following a restructure and several colleagues leaving, some for better things and some because they are unhappy with the pay or workload. I'm sure that when I return there will be still more work that has not been done while I've been away - each time I return after a break it gets worse. My manager and closest colleague are supportive of me and of each other which is one thing that makes it bearable.

@Naimee87 It's good to hear that you are trying to do something about it by retraining and I hope this works out for you.

I've thought about doing the same but I need to try to stay in the same sector to try to remain in the same pension scheme. This limits my options considerably.

Naimee87 · 07/08/2022 19:16

Thanks for all the replies! Seems it isn't just me then that feels anxious about heading back. Perhaps i am over-thinking as i tend to do this with everything in life. The past few months before my holidays i made a few mistakes that have lead to uncomfortable discussions with my boss and with a few other managers. I don't think i have the best reputation at the moment. I am also sick of being blamed for others mistakes which can easily be passed off as 'admin errors'. The 'blame' culture is really dominant. I feel like some people thrive in these high-pressure/high-powered global corporations but i really want out. I know 4 close friends all on 'burn-out' leave all are similar age to me.

The new job would be a massive risk! The salary would mean life-style changes for sure. We aren't in the UK but same concerns here too about the cost of living and just generally being able to provide for me and my DS comfortably as this has always been fairly easy. Which i know is a luxury in itself. I've got a while till i can sit the second exam and get the final qualifications needed for the new job i realllly want. I know i can't rush into anything...

I'll definitely see if a few colleagues are in for lunch/coffee as well! Good tip! Thanks!! :)

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AnnaGB · 07/08/2022 20:31

Sorry to hear about the ‘blame culture’ that’s something it’s really important to be able to rise above.

Hope you have a good day tomorrow and if all else fails chocolate or ice cream might help. 😀

AnnaGB · 08/08/2022 20:28

How did the first day back go? Hope it wasn’t too bad.

Naimee87 · 09/08/2022 20:31

Hello! @AnnaGB better than expected! Quite a few are still on holiday so it was quieter than i thought it would be. But i just don't have any motivation for any of the tasks i need to get done. I think i'm someone that needs to be interested in what i'm doing to be motivated. But i do realise what a luxury it is to like what you do. I'm putting together all my qualifications and work experience up to now and looking into other jobs in the industry i'm a bit crazy about being in. No harm in applying to see what comes back. I definitely won't be rocking the boat though just yet but i think i do think taking the leap is inevitable! 😬😬
Thanks for checking in!

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