DH wants me to stop working evenings

[Ripeberry]

OK this may be very petty but at the moment i'm working p/t as a Home Care Assistant and my DH gets back from work at around 6.30pm and i usually have to drive 10 miles to my first client.
I'm back home by 10.30-11pm at night and although the clients are nice and the pay is good, i'm getting quite nervous in certain areas (rough) as i'm by myself quite late at night and it gets quite bad especially on Friday nights.
Also i hardly see my DH in the evening as i'm out the door as soon as he gets in and he has had a full day at work and then puts our DDs to bed (6yr old and 3yr old).
I also work a Saturday morning so am leaving the house at 6am and not back until 2pm.
He takes the girls out all day Saturday anyway.
Plus on top of all of this my one free evening is taken up with Playschool committee work and meetings.
Came back in from work last night and he said he was really worried about me being out there in the dark and the bad weather.
And i'm starting to agree with him.
I can't realistically change to daytime work as i'm looking after my 3yr old and the playschool is only for 3 hrs a day X 3 so not worth going out for that.
Fell like just handing in my notice and quitting altogether and maybe doing that type of work once both my DDs are in school full time.
What would you do? and would you listen to your partners concerns?
Thanks for listening
AB

I suppose it a) depends if you need the money or not and b) if you could cope just being a SAHM.
Supermarkets offer evening/night hours...maybe, if you need the money especially, that would be an option?

I am doing a JOb that can be pretty scary/dangerous at times ( I am a residential support worker working with 10-18 y old Kids, with challenging behaviour)....and whilst there are times I do get frightened...it's not a bad Job to have. I couldn't do it permanently, but on Bank basis, when you can decide if you take a shift or not, it's fab.
It has a real benefit, most shifts are all day-sleeps...which means, that I earn a little over £135.00 per full shift...
something like that might be an option.
Or how about working in a Nursing/Residential HOme?

I don't think this is petty at all, it just doesnt have an easy answer

It is difficult though. The thing is, it does sound like you might be vulnerable. Are you working alone or is there the possibility of an escort? I would speak to your employers about this, as it is not just you i guess that is in this vulnerable position.

It matters why you are doing the job too. If you are, as i suspect, doing it for more than just the money and you get personal reward from your job then i can understand why you dont want to give up, but i certainly share your DH concerns. If it is just the money and you cant afford to give up, could you find another job with less associated risk? If you can afford to give up, do. There could be scope for some voluntary work that would fit in with the family and be a good experience and good for the CV when you return full time.

Thanks for your replies, just got back from work actually.
The thing is that i don't NEED the money, i could just cut back on things it's just that i LOVE looking after people and having chats with them.
It's just that the company seem to be taking advantage of the decent workers and wondering why they keep leaving!
As my DDs are so young i'm just worried about taking unecessary risks IYKWIM.
I've almost made up my mind to leave once i'm back from hols on 06th March, and i'll put it all in writting.
I'll then try some P/T cleaning work just to get some pennies in.
But once my kids are older i'll return to this type of work.
Just feel like i'm letting my colleagues and clients down, but i must put my relationship and familly first.
AB

I've done voluntuary work for Age Concern in the past and for meals on wheels, that's what got me into Home Care in the first place.
I just enjoy meeting all the different characters, even the grumpy ones have stories to tell!
AB

If its the dark and the bad weather that are the key issues and you aren't planning on giving up until March, wouldn't it make sense to keep on going until next November instead as it won't be such a problem in the summer.

Could you maybe give up being on the Playschool committee. It sounds like you have a lot on and you also like contributing your bit to society, but if you cut back on that you would have more time to spend with your family.

Rookiematter, Problem is that there is NO way i can resign from the playschool committee as the new parents don't want to help out at all and we have been asking them since October and IF i did resign then the playschool would have to close...END OF.
Yes i know the weather would be better BUT the problem with the gangs and yobs actually gets worse in summer and i don't want to go through with that again.
At least i've had a go, most interviwees go out on their first shadowing and never return!
AB