How to ease in after 15 years..?

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I’ve only gone and got a job! The boss is lovely and has asked how I’d like to start, maybe less hours and build up..can anyone advise? Is 30 hours ok to start or will I be in shock?!
kids 17 and 14, commute 1 hr or so each way. Dh super busy so no hope there. Suspect I’ll be just adding this to what I already do.
how do you divide house stuff if you are both working , but I’ll be earning half what he does. He works I do house is how it’s been. So how do I get him to step up? He’s not naturally tidy.
im terrified!

Congratulations! That's really exciting.

I would say if you can afford it, get a cleaner. If DH's not naturally tidy it'll be a huge amount of hassle to get him to step up and you won't have the time for that with your exciting new job. You should have a bit of extra money though. Of course, since you earn half of DH's wage, he should be paying 2/3 of the cleaner's bill....

Ha! Thanks! Ironically I’ll be paying a cleaner more than I earn, so I didn’t know if it was worth it. Seems daft, but I don’t know!

At 17 and 14 you can assign choices to the teenagers, if they don't already do some. The fact your DH earns more should not come into play when dividing household tasks, he probably only earning so much because you have been facilitating his career for the last 15 years.

Make a list of all the jobs and divide them up between all family members.

Your DH is not too busy to tidy up after himself, nor are the DC. It will be a change for everyone to get used to, but everyone needs to pull their weight in and out of the home. Agree with @Sprogonthetyne that the jobs need to be divided equitably between everyone. This doesn’t mean everyone does the same, but that everyone contributes equally.

30 hours a week - is this shorter days 5 days a week, 4 days, shifts…? If you have a full day off, don’t make it a housework day - do some chores, but keep a half day for you.

I went back after 10 years. Yes you are all going to have to pitch in and not pick up jobs that you have always done, little things like buying birthday gifts, share that out. Kids will have to help too. My husband works from home so he's found doing the washing fits in fine. Get a cleaner at least at first, every other week even just couple of hours for hovering and bathrooms. I'm ok with the cooking as finish at 4.30 but lots of friends do gousto or hello fresh and teens can probably follow instructions for those. Pay kids to do ironing maybe? Would be ideal if you discuss this all as family.
It's great though , using your brain, getting to know colleagues , I'm so glad I did it. I do miss the free time but in balance it's great.

Thank you, am extremely nervous! About commute, learning job, it ting it all in..
I love having my own time, but actually I don’t. I was spending hours being anxious and not achieving anything.

If there’s anyway to do 4 days it will make a huge difference to your quality of life.
Know I’ll be shot here but with respect to DH cleaning, tidying etc, you have to find what works. For somethings the nagging isn’t worth it especially if you know how you want it done. Teenagers stepping up definitely worth it and useful for their futures. One of mine really into cooking and is very popular at uni!

Thanks all! I will write a list of jobs this weekend and share them out. This week we can all practice before school, job etc.start. It will all work fine. Esp as ds 14 insists he can’t work the washing machine/ microwave a hot dog. Poor lamb.
its going to be chaos!

Cooking! Good idea